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Recently Judy and I celebrated our 60th wedding anniversary with our immediate family.  Almost two years ago, we began signaling our desire to celebrate with our three adult children and their spouses. The grandkids would be a extra blessing.  Four of our eight grandkids joined us.  As the event neared, we both became aware of its importance in our lives.  We also felt “spiritual warfare” in preparing our remarks.

We  wanted to pass on a spiritual legacy.   I can assure you, there was prayerful consideration in our preparation.  Judy gave an intimate portrait of each family.  She shared her insights and memories, with carefully chosen word of affection, admiration and acceptance for each family.  Her careful, crafted words,  expressed with loving affection. were sought afterwards by each family. 

My comments, coming after prayerful thought were not recorded on paper.  I felt an urgency in my remarks, knowing the uniqueness of our gathering.   I began with  Ps. 71:18,  “Now that I am old and gray, do not abandon me, O God.  Let me proclaim your power to this new generation, your mighty miracles to all who come after me.”  Being in the fourth quarter, my wife and I used this occasion to speak boldly, with a burden to leave a spiritual legacy.  Reflecting on our long journey, we visualize the end of the journey.  We continue to pray each morning for our family,  while asking the Lord to give us a good death.  

I acknowledged speaking as the patriarch of our family, since I was the oldest male in our gathering.  From the beginning of our family, I have embraced and accepted the biblical role of Patriarch found in God’s Word.  God began His plan to rescue humanity through Abraham.  “All the families of the earth will be blessed through you.” (Gen. 12:3).  Then we read in Matthew 1:1, of Jesus being, a “descendant of King David and of Abraham.”  Since I’ve  been adopted into God’s family, as a male, married with three adult children, I  accepted the role of Patriarch.

To declare on our 60 wedding celebration, the role of a Patriarch, was to be vulnerable and spiritually exposed before my family.  Why? First, the role of  Patriarch is highly suspect in today’s culture.  But, by the grace of God I have sought to be a honorable Patriarch.  Secondly, the matter of “living out the role” of Patriarch caused foreboding in my heart. I acknowledged my unworthiness and dependency on God’s mercy. Regardless, I have sought to be intentional  in my role as Patriarch.  My wife accepts her role of my help mate.  I say she is a “long-suffering women,” who has put up with me as her head for all these years.  Thirdly, to be a Patriarch is to  live counter-culturally.  The word has a negative connotation today.  I am the least likely man to embrace the role.  But I have chosen to “lean” into this biblical role.   

The heart of my exhortation was expressed as follows:  1) the rightly ordering of spiritual reality, knowing the light overcomes the impending darkness,  2) to speak a word of overcoming into the spiritual realm of darkness, waging war against the light, and 3) to pray a blessing on each family, asking for God’s grace and protection for the days to come.

I expressed gratitude and thanks for how the Lord has formed my family, first my wonderful wife and then our extended family.  It is God’s gift to me. I expressed  that the time is short.  Greater darkness is coming.  But we can choose to walk in the light of Jesus.  The battle will rage mightily between light and darkness. But Jesus has overcome the darkness.   

Seth Troutt, a young pastor in Arizona, articulates masculine issues in an insightful manner.  In a recent article entitled, “A dearth of vital virtues,” he contends that our society has a masculinity shortage.  In our culture, the description of masculinity as “toxic” is a binary word, being an either-or reality; either a man is too toxic, or he isn’t.  But male toxicity can be viewed as not having enough male energy. The question then becomes when does masculinity become toxic?  “The world suffers,” observes Troutt, “not from too much, but from too little, healthy masculine presence.”  

“Masculinity has to do with male energy and male presence” notes Troutt, “what a man feels like relationally and what his contribution is to the world.”  In understanding masculinity there are two basic assumptions.  “One perspective envisions masculinity as inherently toxic in the binary sense.”  In this view male leadership, aggression and ambition are basically toxic, seeing masculinity energy as domination and controlling.  Masculinity is like a cancer. It needs to be eliminated.  The second perspective is more nuanced, seeing  the amount of toxic masculinity as expressed  harmful. “Too much of anything can prove to be ‘toxic.'”  

Influencers like Andrew Tate can be seen as having too much masculinity.  “The antidote …would be to tone it down, to embrace a more balanced or androgynous energy.”  But Troutt believes there is a lack of God given masculinity.  “Our culture is suffering not from too much of a possible dangerous thing.  Instead, we’re suffering from too little of a necessary thing. We don’t have a toxic masculinity problem.  We have an anemic masculinity problem,” not enough godly masculinity.

What is anemic masculinity?  “Like a body with chronically low amounts of iron can develop anemia, a culture or a person with chronically low nutrients develops an anemic masculine.  What are the aspects of masculinity that are most lacking?” In Troutt’s view the discussion regarding toxic masculinity gets things mostly wrong.  For example, Troutt points out, “A chauvinist isn’t too masculine.  He’s not masculine enough. He sticks out for what he lacks: chivalry and humility.” Troutt points out four characteristics of godly masculinity.

First, “a godly masculinity will always present as humility.”  Instead surrendering in the face of the voices of “toxic” criticism. men should be bold and stand in their God given masculinity.  Male energy is expressed in servanthood. Jesus said, “The greatest among you will be your servant” (Matt 23:11). 

Secondly, “a proper masculinity will see his desires as fundamentally good, but nonetheless disordered.” As an example, the desire for sex is normal, but lust is too much.  A godly expression of masculinity is deeply aware of sexuality, but has surrendered the passions to be rightly ordered by God.

Thirdly, “the true vision for masculinity is of a man who can take care of himself.”  He is focused on giving himself first to others.  He sees himself as a servant of others.  He does not project been a victim.

Fourthly, “an authentic masculinity will recognize the reality of male power and use it to honor and uplift.”  Men are encouragers.

As an elderly male, who has been concerned with issues of masculinity for over 30 years, I admire this young man for his courage.  I agree with his challenge at the end of his article.  “The absence of masculine strength-in-action means that bad players thrive while the weak and timid suffer.  We are to beat back wolves, not coddle them and delve into their back stories.  We are to warn divisive and unruly people while driving out the leaven that threatens the whole lump.  Shirking of responsibility is wildly non-masculine.”

I have been enduring some storm tossed days in my soul life  It has been dark and cloudy.  I struggle with conflicting thoughts about who I am and what I am doing with my life.  I want to be a light for Jesus in my present surroundings, but I am haunted with doubts about my own faithfulness.   

I have learned to accept inner storms as a normal part of my spiritual journey.  Years ago, I was reluctant to acknowledge the  frequent storm occurring in my inner life, since I felt I had matured enough to be able to have clear sailing.  But I have learned as I journey along, storm will appear unexpected.  The storms, allowed by the Lord are a natural part of my spiritual growth.  I only learn by going through the storm, not by pretending it isn’t there.

I share my struggle because I got some encouragement from a recent blog by Ron Rolheiser. It helped give expression to my experience of the “dark night.” “Jesus,” notes Rolheiser, had a cosmic image for this experience.  “The sun will be darkened, the moon will not give forth its light, stars will fall from heaven, and the powers of heaven will be shaken”  (Matt. 25:29). When Jesus refers to these words from Isaiah, he is not describing only  cosmic cataclysms, but also a cataclysms of the heart.  “Sometimes our inner world is shaken, turned upside down; it gets dark in the middle of the day, there’s an earthquake in  the heart; we experience the end of the world as we’ve known it.” 

I say “amen.”  Rolheiser goes on the talk about “a dark night of the soul,” an experience of the soul life that I have have spent almost forty years of trying to understand.  Discussing St. John of the Cross, he writes, “God takes away the pleasure and consolation and we experience a certain dark night in that where we once felt fire, passion, consolation, and security, we will now feel dryness, boredom, disillusion, and insecurity.  For John of the Cross, all honeymoons eventually end.”

Why does the honeymoon need to end?  Rolheiser suggests, “on a honeymoon, too often we are more in love with being  in love and all the wonderful energy this creates than we are in love with the person behind all those feelings. The same is  true for faith and prayer.  When we first begin to pray seriously, we are often more in love with the experience of praying  and what it’s doing for us than we are in love with God.”  Therese of Lisieux used to warn: “Be careful not to seek yourself in love, you’ll end up with a broken heart that way.”

Years ago, I finally came to the realization that the honeymoon stage of my journey was over.  I was like a child who always expected candy from his father.  My heavenly Father was weaning me of the “sweet” experiences of prayer with its “sugar highs.”   I did not like giving up the familiar, while my heavenly Father was expecting me to live more like a maturing adult.  The honeymoon was over. I was being led down a path meant for a more mature adult man.   

Briefly, this is what I have learned thus far.  1) Realizing darkness, dryness and not knowing is normal.   2) God allows changes in the life of the soul for our growth.  Our old self will resist.  3) God looks at the intention of our heart.  Do we truly want to love Jesus more.  4) He will continue pursues us in love.  5) God will never give up on us.  6) Ultimately we surrender to his love as we mature.

Ralph Martin is president of Renewal Ministries, a movement among conservative Catholics.  I have followed Ralph since the early days of the Charismatic Movement in the early 70’s.  I call Ralph a “prophetic straight shooter.”  He is a catholic theologian, who is a faithful orthodox author.  He dares to say things that many evangelical authors would not dare say and with conviction.  He wrote an article recently entitled “The Four Last Things.”  I want to summarize his article because of its blunt clarity.

He begins by quoting Pope John Paul II.  “The Church cannot omit, without serious mutilation of her essential message, a constant catechesis of man’s Four Last Things: death, judgment, hell and heaven.  Knowing what comes after this earthly life can guide us in it.  Beyond the mysterious gates of death and eternity, we will arrive at either joy and communion with God or separation from Him.  Only by understanding these Last Things can one realize the nature of sin and move toward penance and reconciliation.”

First, Death – Why do we die?  Death is the result of the fall in the Garden.  The fruit was forbidden because it was harmful; it meant death.  The lie told in the garden is being offered today. “You shall be like God.  Create yourself, choose your own identity, declare your independence from Him.”  But the gospel  invites people to be saved, forgiven and transformed.  This implies believing in the Word of God and turning from sin.  Martin declares, “Jesus is the antidote to death.  He paid a price for our sins. He perfectly obeyed and loved the Father as we never could.  By dying and rising again, He established freedom, immortality, and eternal life.  And he gives it freely to whoever wants it.

Second, Judgment.    Hebrews 9:27 declares, “Just as man is destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.”  Jesus will return in the fullness of his glory to judge the living and the dead.   Martin boldly points out, “We scarcely hear about God’s severity, holiness, justice, and judgment.  There should be a constant catechesis on these things.  Christianity isn’t a game; everyone doesn’t get a trophy.  Being a disciple is hard.”

Third, Hell.  Those who won’t be welcomed into God’s kingdom face “the second death.”  This is eternal separation from God. We are given what we’ve chosen, awful isolation, rebellion, anger, hatred, lust and greed.   Martin says “This is not a game, this is life and death.  The Son of God wants to save us, but we need to pay attention to what He is saying.”  Then, even more bluntly, “Do whatever you need to do to get free of serious sin, because it will kill you.  Serious sin will send you to hell unless you repent.”

Fourth , Heaven.  Those who have their names written in the book of life, will hear, “Behold, the dwelling of God is with men. He will dwell with them. and they shall be his people, and God himself will be with them; he will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away.” (Rev. 21:2-4).  Relationships in heaven will far surpass our earthly relationships.  In heaven, there is perfect love and union 

I was struck by the candid manner of Martin, who I respect greatly.  It makes me ponder how candid my witness has been.  Reality for all who live here below, involve these last four things.  For me, I have been reluctant  to speak of hell.  Yet hell is a reality for all who have not been  saved by Jesus.    

Luke Simon had an interesting article about masculinity in Mere Orthodoxy.  He ponders the question, asked by Barb Weiss, “How do we bring back heroic masculinity without bringing back toxic masculinity?” Weiss was in discussion with Louise Perry, author of “The Case Against the Sexual Revolution,” in which Perry suggests, “the sexual revolution has largely benefited men while leaving women more vulnerable and unhappy.  She acknowledged that a return to a Christian sexual ethic offers women greater protection and security. “

But there is no need to reinvent masculinity.  “What we need”, suggests Simon, “is a return to cruciform masculinity – a strength that serves, a power that protects, and a leadership that sacrifices.” Today, our culture seems to offer two extreme versions of masculinities.  On one hand, a masculinity that is toxic, which needs to be softened or even erased.  On the other hand, a masculinity that is brutal, aggressive, and dominant, in which masculinity is weaponized.  Each extreme can leave men confused.    

Jesus’ example offers men a different vision.  Simon gives this description of Jesus: “He was neither passive nor oppressive.   He was fierce yet gentle, authoritative yet humble.  He protected the weak, challenged corruption and served the outcast.  His strength was not wielded for his own gain but for the good of others.  And he ultimately laid down his life – not out of weakness, but out of the greatest strength of all: the strength to love sacrificially.”  

A desire for “heroic” masculinity can be seen as a longing for cruciform masculinity, “because true heroism has always been about sacrifice, and there is no greater sacrifice than the cross.”  If women in our culture are looking for a heroic masculinity, there is no need to look to self-proclaimed alpha males.  We need men who are shaped by Christ.  “Their strength is not for power, but for service.  Not for control, but for love.  Not for status, but for sacrifice.”  

So, the question of how to bring back heroic masculinity without bringing back toxic masculinity is for men being formed in the image of Christ.  Simon wonder, “maybe the problem isn’t that we have too much masculinity.  Maybe we don’t have enough of the right kind.  We need more men shaped by the sacrificial love of Christ, more men who know their power is for protecting, not exploiting.  More men called to a greater story than their own success.”  

Then as a younger male, Simon makes this statement that is a challenge to me as an “old guy.”  “Maybe that’s why Gen. Z men like me are staying in church.  In a culture that is confused about our purpose, the church tells us, we are responsible, needed, and called to something higher.  We are looking for purpose, direction and identity – and we are finding it in the example of Jesus.”  

As an “old guy” who has been blogging on “the wildman journey,” I sense a move of God among young men, who are seeking a “safe place” where they can “rub shoulders” with older seasoned men who have walked with the Lord through the “thick and thin” of modern life, and still have a confident, humble, winsome walk with the Lord.  I sense that the author of this article, Luke Simon is such an individual.  

Peter seemed to be addressing such a “safe place” among men when he said, “You who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another.” ( I Peter 5:5). Peter is speaking to a right order of mutual sharing among men expressed in humility.  Gen. Z hungers for such a space among men.

I have become, at my age, more unsteady on my feet.  My balance is off and I don’t walk as confidently as a senior man.  It is hard to admit.  It seemed therefore, appropriate for me to write a blog about spiritually stumbling.  Hebrews 12:12-3 give us this exhortation.  “So stop letting your hands go slack and get some energy into your sagging knees!  Make straight paths for your feet.  If you’re lame, make sure you get healed instead of being put out of joint” (Wright).   Wow, I sure get this message.

I take this both physically and spiritually.  I need to do the best with what I have physically.  “Al, keep at it; don’t give in the aging process.”  But these verses also can be seen as a spiritual exhortation for all ages.  Don’t get out of shape spiritually.  Cry out for spiritual energy; don’t begin to coast spiritually; Keep your focus on the straight path before you; If your wounded spiritually, allow the Lord to heal your soul.

The Psalmist expressed his gratitude for being able to stay on the path.  “My steps have held to your path; my feet have not slipped” (Ps 17:5). He also was thankful for the help he received on his journey.  “If the Lord delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm; through he stumbles, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand” (Ps. 37:23-24)

What I find especially encouraging is being able to walk in the presence of the Lord.  “He has saved me from death, my eyes from tears, and my feet from stumbling.  And so I walk in the Lord’s presence as I live here on earth” (Ps 116:8-9 NLT).  He helps me to walk in the light. “For you have rescued me from death; you have kept my feet from slipping.  So now I can walk in your presence, O God, in your life-giving light” (Ps 56:13 NLT). 

The prophets continually warn us of stumbling in the dark.  “So there is no justice among us, and we know nothing about right living.  We look for light but find only darkness.  We look for bright skies but walk in gloom.  We grope like the blind along a wall, feeling our way like people without eyes.  Even at brightest noontime, we stumble as though it were dark.  Among the living, we are like the dead” (Is. 59:10 NLT). 

Long ago, the prophet Isaiah warned us to be careful not to pay attention to “misinformation.”  In his prophetic message, he called it “conspiracy.”  “Don’t call everything a conspiracy, like they do, and don’t live in dread of what frightens them. Make the Lord of Heaven’s armies holy in your life.   He is the one you should fear.  He is the one who should make you tremble” (Is 8:12-13 NLT).  Otherwise, Isaiah warns about stumbling.  “He will be a stone that makes people stumble, a rock that makes them fall.  And for the people of Jerusalem he will be a trap and a snare.  Many will stumble and fall, never to rise again.  They will be snared and captured” (Is. 8:14-15 NLT).   

My testimony –  I want to finish strong.  I don’t want to bend the knee, becoming lazy spiritually.  Lord, help me to fight the Good Fight to the end.  By your grace and mercy, give me the will, the strength and the  determination to walk  in the Light of the Lord’s Presence the rest of my days.  Above all, allow me to be a man of truth, who not only exposes  “misinformation” but also  has the courage and insight to represent the truth in word and deed. 

Anthony Bradley writes how pop music “cries out” regarding fatherlessness in our culture.  “For decades, popular music has served as a powerful medium for artists to grapple with personal trauma, none more resonant than the wounds inflicted by bad fathers.  From abandonment to emotional neglect, musicians have transformed their pain into melody, offering listeners both catharsis and a window into the lifelong consequences of paternal failure.  In the late twentieth and early twenty-first centuries, a wave of songs emerged that directly confronted the heartbreak of absentee or neglectful fathers, spanning genres and generations in a cultural reckoning with broken families.” 

Bradley, who obviously knows the lyrics,  gives this warning, “The voices of these artists…… are cultural testimonies to the devastating impact of fatherlessness…..The depth of rage, sorrow and longing found in these lyrics makes one thing abundantly clear: the failure of fathers is not just a personal failing, but a social epidemic with generational consequences…..The pain of these artists is not theoretical…….The sociological research confirms what the music has been screaming for decades: children need their fathers…..These songs, then, are more than expressions of personal grief.  They are warnings….a father’s absence is never forgotten.  It lingers in the lyrics, in the broken relationships, in the struggles for self-worth, in the desperate search for love in all the wrong places.”   

And as Bradley reminds us if nothing changes, “these same songs will continue to be written, decade after decade, generation after generation, an eternal echo of a crisis we refuse to confront.”   

Bradley comments on the lyrics of various pop artists.  He mentions Eric Clapton’s “My Father’s Eyes” (1998) as a haunting lament about longing for a father he never met, filled with deep sorrow.  Kelly Clarkson in “Because of You” (2004) speaks to the deep scars of abandonment.  Everclear’s “Father of Mine” (1997) rages against a father’s absence.  The song express the brutal realities of growing up without a father.  

Hip-hop has been an unflinching genres when it comes to fatherlessness. 2Pac’s “Papa’z Song” (1993) expresses longing, rage, and self-reliance at a father’s absence.  Jay-Z and Beanie Sigel’s lyrics are like a verbal assault, demanding answers for years of neglect.  Earl Sweatshirt’s “Day” (2015) suggests that some wounds will never heal.   Kendrick Lamar laments the impact of a father’s presence as a generational and cultural wound.  In “U” (2015) Lamar shares to deep self-hatred resulting from family struggles and abandonment.  In J. Coles unreleased “Dear Father” (2011) is a song about abandonment and the internal war that rages in a son left to wonder why he wasn’t enough for his father to stay.   

Many of these artists have spent their lives struggling with the question:”Why wasn’t I worth staying for?” And even more hauntingly: “Am I doomed to repeat the sins of my father?”  “Every absent father, every abusive father, every neglected father leaves a wound and those wounds do not simply fade.  They fester, they metastasize, they are passed down.  Fatherlessness is not just a private heartbreak – it is a crisis that shapes our families, our communities, and our nation. It lingers in the lyrics, in the broken relationships, in the struggles  for self-worth, in the desperate search for love in all the wrong places.” 

This article spoke deeply to my heart as a father.  I raised three children and am grandfather to eight grandchildren.  Bradley’s remarks made me reflect my fathering and the wounds I have left.  I am thankful early in my marriage for knowing God’s order for the family  I was committed to doing my best as a Dad.  For the ways I was not a good father, I have asked my children for forgiveness.     

I ‘ve read Ch.9 of Isaiah often,  especially during the Advent season.  Recently I was struck with the sheer force of verses 4-5, when I consider the yoke and emotional burden our nation is under.   “For you will break the yoke of their slavery and lift the heavy burden from their shoulders.  You will break the oppressor’s rod, just as you did when you destroyed the army of Midian.  The boots of the warrior and the uniforms bloodstained by war will be burned.  They will be fuel for the fire” (Is. 9:4-5 NLT). This would be an unbelievable occurrence for people, “walking in darkness……living in the land of the shadow of death (Is. 9:2). 

At the time of Isaiah’s prophecy, the Assyrians had invaded Zebulun and Naphtali, the two northern tribes of Israel. The invasion brought darkness and despair, but the Isaiah was giving the people reason for hope.  “Nevertheless, there will be no more gloom for those who were in distress” (Is. 9:1).  These words are given in the “prophetic perfect.” “Though the events were in the future, they were described as if they had already happened” (CSB Study Bible). Matthew quotes this passage in Matt. 4:15-16,  referring to the ministry of Jesus, who as the light of the world has come to  removing the darkness and lifting the despair 

When a nation feels like they are living in the shadow of death, it give the impression of little hope of a brighter future. “The oppressed nation is compared to an ox weighed down by a heavy yoke and an animal that is prodded and beaten.” (NET)  I have been pondering the yoke as a symbol of our nation’s despair and anxiety. In scripture the yoke is the image of subjection.  We read in Deut. 28:47-8, “Because you did not serve the Lord your God joyfully and gladly in the time of prosperity, therefore in hunger and thirst, in nakedness and dire poverty, you will serve the enemies the Lord sends against you.  He will put an iron yoke on your neck until he has destroyed you” (Deut 28:46- 47).  The burden of carrying a yoke, can be the consequence of a nation having turned their backs on the Lord.

But God in His mercy will also release a nation from the yoke that they carry.  “They will know that I am the Lord, when I break the bars of their yoke and rescue them from the hands of those who enslaved them” (Ezk. 34:27).  Isaiah prophesied Israel being freed from the Assyrian yoke. “I will crush the Assyrian in my land; on my mountain I will trample him down.  His yoke will be taken from my people, and his burden removed from their shoulders” (Is 14:25). 

Isaiah points to David’s victory at Midan, when he was victorious with only 300 men.  It was unbelievable victory against a great army.  Isaiah promises a similar future victory for the people of God.  It will be a decisive battle, even though it will be bloody.  “The boots of the warrior and the uniforms bloodstained by war will all be burned.  They will be fuel for the fire” (Is. 9:5).  “The burning of the boots and the bloody clothes of the enemy soldiers….signify a victory in holy war where spoils were dedicated to God and military equipment was se on fire” (CSB Study Bible).

As a nation we are under a cloud of darkness, causing much despair.  There may be some hope and relief as light beginning to shine.  But ultimately, the burden and the rod of despair can only be lifted by the Lord. Only he can “break the oppressor’s rod.” Is. 9:5 reminds us that it will be messy before it gets better.  

Carl Trueman, wrote an enlightening article about Phillip Rieff’s distinction between first, second and third worlds.  Rieff is know for his emphasis on the therapeutic self; a concept of happiness resulting from an inner, psychological happiness.  “Everything else,” notes Trueman, “must conform to my inward desires and pander to my personal needs.  There’s no need for me to fit into larger society and learn to behave in accordance with society norms.”   

Rieff is not interested in either geographics nor economics.  He rather is interested in the type of culture that societies embody.  Trueman believes Reiff’s paradigm helps us understand why the world seems so unstable and chaotic at this time. 

The first-world cultures, “are those in the past that build their moral orders on the basis of notions of fate or the gods.”  In this culture, fate is the controlling idea.  “It is not God as some transcendent being who is in charge, but it is still a force prior to the natural order and beyond the control of mere men and women, that make the rules.” 

The second-world cultures, “are those where the law has authority because it reflects the character of God.”  Second-world societies include Christendom and the world of Old Testament Judaism.  According to Rieff, “both first and second worlds justify their morality by appeal to something transcendent, beyond the material world.  But the second-world cultures appeal not only to supernatural power but to divine integrity.”  Our concepts of justice and mercy have been shaped by a biblical worldview.  “Rieff would say that in second-world cultures, the law has authority because it points beyond the culture and beyond fate to something sacred that grounds it.”

By the term third world, Rieff, “means that a society has moved into a completely secular mode.”  “In a secular society, law codes can only be justified and grounded in society itself.  There’s nothing beyond this society, and that makes law codes inherently unstable.”  When the sacred order is abandoned, cultures are left without any foundation at all.  A culture without a sacred order is left, “justifying itself only by reference to itself.”  This is what we see in our culture today.

As a result, society becomes incredibly unstable and in constant change.  We all sense this instability in our daily lives.  It is hard to live with second-world assumptions, while attempting to ground morality and ethics in higher divine authority in a third world setting.  The third world does not see the Bible as having any authority.  Trueman notes, “I think that’s where a lot of the communication breakdown” happens today. Living in the third world,  we are plagued by what Flannery O’Connor called “Christ-hauntedness.”

The goal of the second world was to help pagans see how Jesus was better than their dead idols.  But Trueman maintains, “While there’s still a place for exposing heart-idols in our own times, our goal in the third world must be to help our more secular friends see that their worldview lacks any firm foundation.”  While present day culture keeps shifting in its beliefs and values, Trueman challenges us to “model community life in the church that’s rooted in the Rock.”

All men who are followers of Jesus in our day, need the reminder that there are no “Lone Rangers.”  We witness to our secular culture  as a believing community.  Jesus who is the truth reminds us of the impact community has when He instructs us, “A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. (John 13:34-35) 

I have quoted Aaron Renn often in my blogs.  He has written some very thoughtful insights regarding masculinity.  He recently posted the following, about 10 healthy pillars for masculinity.  Renn describes these pillars as, “things on which life is built.”  He believes “America needs a new vision of a healthy masculinity fit for the 21st century.”  The 10 pillars are foundational pillars of the masculine life that a man needs to have as “part of is manhood repertoire.”  

See what you think of these pillars?  Are they part of your understanding as a man?  Do they fit into the lifestyle you have chosen for yourself?  What would you add or subtract from the list?  How are you challenged by this list?  Does it help clarify what are your foundational pillars in the present stage of your masculine journey?  Remember, there are a lot of voices telling men that we are toxic and have little relevance in our day.  Aaron Renn is a man to be respect as a spokesman for Christian men in our day. 

Here is his list.  I will make some personal observations from my life as one who has been on the journey for many years. 

1. Identity.  “If you don’t know who you are, you don’t know what to do.  ‘Who you are?’ is the most fundamental question of life.” – (One of my greatest insights has been simply this, “I  have a Father in heaven who delights in me.”  This has removed much of  my shame and guilt.)

2. Mission.  Each man should have a mission. – (I am thankful for receiving my “marching orders” at 18 to be a servant of the Lord Jesus.  It  still applies in my retirement years.  I simply want to be a humble, loving follower of Jesus.  It is more about being than doing.)

3. Agency.  “You have to believe that it is possible to take action to change you circumstances to the better, to take positive steps toward progress in your mission.” – (I thank God for his grace  and mercy enabling me to go through the dark times, where I grown the most as a man.)

4. Virtue.  This implies, “cultivating excellences across multiple dimensions of virtue” such as theological and cardinal virtues. – (I desire to continue in my character formation as a “godly man” in an unfriendly toxic culture.)

5. Knowledge.  “You need to know how the world works… not just how people tell you it works…. but how it actually does work.”- (I work daily at cultivating a “Christian worldview” that speaks to a negative culture.”)

6. Wisdom.  “You have to constantly grow in how to apply your virtue and knowledge in the right way in each situation.” – (With all my heart I want to be a faithful witness for the Lord no matter what the cost.  Darker days are coming for believers.)

7. Fraternity.  “Every man needs a band of brothers.” – (As of now I have two brother who I can absolutely trust. I need the voices of other men in my life.)

8. Family.  “Getting married and having kids is the normative path for men in life.”  – ( I am so thankful for prioritizing my family as being first in the earlier years of marriage and having three children.) 

9. Suffering   “Boxer Mike Tyson said, ‘Everybody’s got a plan till they get punched in the face.'”  – (I believe that the way to a man’s heart is through his pain. My humiliations have taught me the most.)

10.  Legacy.  “What are you going to leave behind when you are gone?  How will you have an impact in the world that extends beyond the span of your own life.”  – (I sincerely pray that my death will be a gift to my family.)