“The transition to Ambivalent World” is the title of an article in World Magazine by pastor Seth Troutt.  It got my attention.  As the teaching pastor at Ironwood Church in Arizona, I think this young pastor is alerting us to a shift in our culture.  “The vibes have shifted and young men in America are more open to the gospel than they have been for decades, and we mostly have podcast culture to thank for that.”  I for one, as an “old timer” do not listen to or pay much attention to the cultural influencers on the internet.  But the thought of an “Ambivalent World” got me wondering.

Troutt makes the argument that we are moving out of the negative world (2015 – present).   From his point of view, ” [A] Negative World is already disintegrating and giving rise to a fourth epoch: Ambivalent World.”  He sees this shift as fragmented since it is gendered and generational.  “While young men are breaking conservative and religious – even more religious than women for the first time ever – young women are increasingly identifying as liberal.  This means we aren’t returning to a Neutral World, but we’re wading into a split world filled with mixed emotions and divergent plausibility structures.”  

Troutt describes ambivalence as “the coexistence of conflicting feelings.”  “America today,” Troutt believes, “craves moral coherence and resists it, it seeks transcendence while reveling in immanence.  Troutt mentions “Reality Respecters (Joe Rogan) and Meaning Makers (Jordon Peterson).”  He goes on to observe, “Those who respect reality won’t stand for the erasure of biological facts, and the Meaning Makers won’t settle for nihilistic existential answers to questions about meaning.  They’ll have libertarian instincts as it relates to authority and traditional assumptions about gender.  They’ll be open but cautious about the Bible.”  It seems to Troutt that those most likely to covert are “fleeing reality denying epistemologies by yanking the wheel to the right.” 

Troutt give this caution.  “Churches must recognize that no matter what, their rhetoric will alienate some while resonating deeply with others, but churches that want to reach the next generation of young men should orient their communication and missional emphasis in such a way that the Reality Respecters and Meaning Maker (i.e., people who listen to Joe Rogan and Jordon Peterson) will feel understood and seen.”   We need to be paying attention.

Pastor Troutt has certainly made me more aware of shift taking place in our culture, especially among young men. As a elder I need to be open minded.  It very well could be that we are headed into a time of confusion and uncertainty, rather than the assumed negative stance to the “Good News.”  Here is what I must pay attention to in the days to come.

First, this shift is “gendered and generational.”  The voice of Scripture will be met with mixed responses.  Yet we have lived for years under a cloud of suspicion regarding God’s design for male and female.  Men can be exemplars of God’s intentions .

Secondly, pay attention to the influence of the “reality respecters” and  “meaning makers.”  Men are hungering for reality and meaning, in the midst of “coexistence of conflicting feelings.”

Thirdly, we live in a time when young men are struggling with identity (reality) and wanting to know the best way to journey through the confusion of our time.  Could it be that God is opening a door for the “Good News.” “See, I have placed before you an open door that no one can shut” (Rev. 3:8). 

Fourthly, while I am in the “fourth quarter” of my journey, I desire to be a voice crying in the wilderness, for men to come home to Jesus.

Mark Hemingway wrote a insightful article in the Federalist entitled, “We need to have a national conversation about ‘Toxic Femininity.'” While the author agrees that male violence and misogyny need to be addressed, the rise of internet culture has given rise to “toxic” masculinity.  By “successfully branding men as toxic,” Hemingway point out,  “no one hesitates anymore before disparaging men, whereas huge swaths of Americans are loathe to criticize feminism or make generalizations about women. Even when we can say that feminism has become, very literally toxic.”  

Hemingway maintains that many women don’t fully understand that everything is not about them.  “I don’t doubt,” he notes, “that years of reflective belittling of men affected the way they voted in this election.”  He goes on to say, “Men between ages 18-29 shifted a staggering 30 points to the right (and, worth noting women in the same age cohort also swung right, albeit less dramatically).” But he does not think “men voted for Trump to intentionally to spite women, or that they were susceptible to political programming.”

He points out that it is the women who have been radicalized.  The “discourse” has for a long time been  focused on men being inherently bad.  Many women have forgotten that, “men have their own needs and aspirations that don’t resolve around accepting a lowly place in an intersectional hierarchy.”  

Hemingway then makes a statement, which I can embrace.  “The problem is that healthy masculinity is best realized not by erasing the distinctions between men and women or catering to one over the other, but by embracing the complementarity of the two sexes.  Whether they resent this being mansplaining or not, women have a responsibility to be the nurturing and moderating influence on men the same way men have a responsibility to channel their aggressive tendencies to provide for and defend women.”  

He concludes by saying, “I don’t have any ideas about how to go about helping these women find peace, but the conversation we need to have can’t begin and end with threatening men, ceding to radically left-wing political demands……For now, the first step is to admit you have a problem, and toxic femininity is a real thing we’re going to have to confront and deal with before it drags the whole country over the edge.”

Again, I am politically neutral, but I do believe that this past election cycle indicated a widening gap between man and female attitudes about the sexuality, especially the younger population.  I desire the courage to address the damaging effects of “toxic femininity,” while keeping a focus on the failure of men in our culture.  I want to speak up for men, while admitting the toxicity of both men and women.   Here is what it means for me.

First, live informed by a  Christian worldview.   I have assurance in being created in the image of God as a man.  God declared, “Then God created man, he made him in the likeness of God.  He created them male and female and blessed them.” (Gen 5:1-2).   This is God’s design for human relationships. 

Secondly, my affirmation as a man, comes from my heavenly Father,  As I receive assurance of my masculinity, I can walk in integrity and not apologize for being a man,  be simplify myself, secure in my masculinity.   This has been a lifelong journey, often very painful and confusing.   

Thirdly, I will humbly walk out the implication of being a man, while acknowledging the harm done to women. Because of sin, both male and female can be “toxic.”

Fourthly, I will celebrate the need of the feminine in my journey to wholeness as a man. Thank God for my wife of 59 years.