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How do we gain back our resilience, have reserves, and live without fear? None of us know what will happen in the future, but one thing we do know is the One who holds the future. We read in Hebrews 3:1 that “He upholds the universe by the word of His power.” When we spend more time watching the news or reading the newspaper than we do reading the Word, our hearts will get fearful and anxious. No matter how dark the times we live in, we don’t have to fear for He is with us. It is good to memorize Psalm 23, remember who our Shepherd is, and to sit beside quiet waters so our souls can be refreshed.
Sadly, the enemy wants us to quit, and he has persuaded many pastors, long-term missionaries and many in public ministries to give up. Jesus warned us in Luke 21 that before He comes again, there will be distress on the earth and people will faint with fear. He warns us to watch ourselves and not to be weighed down, but to stay awake, pray, and stand strong. I think we would all admit we have become a Comfort Culture with kids growing up having everything done for them, but it leaves us all weakened. When trials and hard times come, many give up on God and feel He isn’t coming through.
The choice is ours if we are willing to fight against the enemy and choose to resist the enemy’s tactics. Our trust is to be in our mighty God, as the Psalmist says in Psalm 125:1, “Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be moved, but abides forever.” Let us have a single heart for the Lord and ask for His help to stay strong and not moved.
It would seem things in our western culture have become chaotic and hope has been lost. I wonder: what do we have to offer the next generation, as we seem to have lost what once made our country great? But when we know the Lord, we are not to despair for our hope is in the Lord, which is based on certainty and reality. I’d like to share what we learned in Sunday’s class as we understand what is happening around us in light of scripture, seeing four realities:
1. Christ is risen and is the reason we have a living hope. Peter writes in I Peter 1:3, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to His mercy He has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jeus from the dead.” He is writing to those who were exiled and scattered, reminding them of the hope in Christ even as they are persecuted.
2. Christ is Lord and He sees what is going on in our country and the world. He is not wringing His hands, but is sovereign and in control. We are not! Things rise and fall according to His sovereign will.
3. Christ is making all things new and we have much to look forward to, as it says in Rev. 21:5. One day there will be a new heaven and earth, with no more death or mourning, etc.
4. God has determined this moment for us. We live in the exact time God chose for us to live, not centuries before, but now. Al and I were sitting next to the pastor’s young son, and I felt apologetic that we hand him a world so full of chaos and not like the world we had entered. But this is God’s moment for him and for each of us, as He put us in this place and time for His glory.
So let none of us despair, but live in truth and deep hope based on reality of what we have in Christ. Instead of watching hours on TV of what is happening in our country, consider taking time off to spend in prayer and scripture to remember our hope is in Jesus.
Recently I was reading from Romans 14 where Paul is dealing with those who had different views on eating and observing certain days, and criticized others who didn’t see things the same way as they did. In The Message, Paul is very clear and starts out by saying, “Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t see things the way you do. Don’t jump all over them every time they do or say something you don’t agree with- even when it seems that they are strong on opinions but weak in the faith department.” He says to treat them gently, not be critical, and let God make the corrections without our help. Each one of us forms are own convictions and are to follow our consciences as we are answerable to the Lord, not each other.
That means we are not to criticize other Christians or be judgmental towards them as we have our own lives to take care of. The Message says, “So tend to your knitting. You’ve got your hands full just taking care of your own life before God.” Let us not get in the way of how the Lord may be leading another believer and decide for them how they should think and feel about all kinds of issues. Instead, let us encourage them and share our lives together as we cultivate our own relationship with the Lord.
Solomon was a very wise king, and he also knew he needed God’s wisdom. Mark Roberts from Fuller Seminary has been writing about Solomon, and I liked what he had to say about Solomon’s request. In I Kings 3, the Lord asks Solomon in a dream, “Ask! What shall I give you?” Solomon is humble and says he is only a child and asks for a discerning heart to distinguish right from wrong. Discerning here comes from the Hebrew term “lev shomea”, which means a hearing heart. That is, a receptive heart so that he can discern and be attentive to God’s guidance. He is aware that he does not have all that it takes to rule justly, but that he needs to listen to God’s voice if he is to rule well.
When we want to do our own thing and go our own way, it is pretty hard to hear the Lord’s voice. Often it takes a challenging situation when we are perplexed and don’t know what to do; then we are more prone to be good listeners. But we need a discerning heart all the time. Sometimes, one small decision opens up the door to something that we have never even dreamed of. Roberts says a discerning heart also includes our mind and our emotions, and shapes our thinking, willing, and feeling. It may also involve active listening, asking questions of others. He suggests repeating in your own words what you feel someone is saying to you. That in itself may clear up things you thought were coming at you from the other person. Let us not miss the ways God would speak to us, whether it be through scripture or through words of others God may use in our lives.
I read Ronald Rolheiser’s blog often. He expresses views outside my comfort zone, yet he has a way of writing that speaks to my soul, especially when it comes to relationships. A recent blog was entitled “A father’s Blessing.” He lost his father when he was 23 year old. But he has admiration for his father. “Like God’s voice at the baptism of Jesus, he had already communicated to me: ‘You are my son in whom I am well pleased.’ Not everyone is that lucky. That’s about as much a person may ask from a father.”
At one point, Rolheiser talks about his “father’s dance.” Since then, I have thought a lot about my dance as a father. He writes, “Every son watches how his father dances and unconsciously sizes him up against certain things: hesitancy, fluidity, abandonment, exhibitionism, momentary irrationality, irresponsibility. “
Rolheiser remembers, “My father never had much fluidity or abandon in his dance step……I would have traded my father for a dad who had a more fluid dance step……..that is partly my struggle to receive his full blessing. He quotes a line from William Blake’s ‘Infant Sorrow,’ in which he mentions ‘Struggling in my father’s hands.'” Rolheiser acknowledges, “that means struggling at times with my dad’s reticence to simply let go and drink in life’s full gift.”
As a father, I wonder how the readers of this blog would describe their “dance.” I know for myself, I now wish I would have been more fluid in my dance. I never wondered what my kids thought of my dance. I have, however, regrets for some of my missteps in my dance. As I grew in my role as a father, I became more aware of my children’s needs both spiritually and emotionally. But I am well aware that I did not have the right steps in communicating the father’s love for my children.
I have reluctantly reflected on my dance, knowing my kids might have preferred a different expression. I had my missteps and sloppy expressions. I encourage each father reading this blog to do likewise. I know for me, it has been a clarifying experience. Some day I will ask each of my three children what they thought of my dance.
In this blog, I will express my dance as a coach. I see at least four characteristics of dad as a family coach. I have never been a coach, but as a sports fan, I have always be intrigued by the different styles of coaching. So, these four points are only from my observation of successful coaches.
First, dad is the head coach. He sets the tone and direction of the family. He takes seriously the responsibility entrusted to him by God to head up the family. I was the head coach of my team of five. I was accountable for how well we played.
Secondly, the family plays the game within the rules. For me it was vital that we followed the guidelines of scripture, even when it hurt. We’re in the game of live. It is my task to make sure we know how to live. We are to live for the glory of God. Period!
Thirdly, take a personal interest in each player. Each of my three children were unique gifts of God given to my wife and I to prepare for adult life. We help our children see their giftedness and abilities. Celebrate their successes.
Fourthly, encourage the team to finish strong. Never, never give up coaching the team. There will be bumps and bruises along the way. But in Jesus you will as a family come out victorious.
But the most important word in the Psalm is to abide in the Lord, trust Him and know that He will be with us no matter what is happening in our lives. Even though fearful things may be happening around us or we have lost a loved one, we are to hold fast to Him in love and know He will answer us. He is our place of refuge. Selah! Think more about this!!
We are to trust God even when we don’t understand, for His ways are higher than our ways. I have only to look back on my own life and remember what I thought at the time was disappointing turned out to be God rescuing me from something that would not have been good for me. God is so loving that we can be assured if things aren’t turning out as we hoped, He has something deeper planned for us. We can thank Him in faith, even though we may not make sense of what is happening in the now.
Most of us would like a path of ease, to be free of problems, and to live in comfort every day. But the Lord is more concerned about our souls, even when things are not so much to our liking. At such times, we have to remember God’s ways are higher than our ways and He has purpose in all that touches our lives. It may not seem like it in the present, but He often opens our eyes to see that this will turn out for great good in the future and will strengthen us. One thing is for certain: He is trustworthy and He is working out all the things in our life to make us more like Him.
It is not all about spiritual disciplines, reading a chapter a day, or denying ourselves, although these are good practices. The Lord wants us to experience joy in knowing Him and being in fellowship with others who love Him. I read recently from Dallas Willard, “Personalities united can contain more of God and sustain the force of His greater presence much better than scattered individuals.” Gathering in His name helps us go deeper into the Lord, and we don’t feel like we are alone but part of a family who stand together. The enemy wants us to believe we are the only one who follows the Lord, but we stand strong when we stand together.
I love that where we live, we can have a weekly Bible study and pray when we are together, and also pray for the needs when we are apart. Because we are all mostly retired, we find ourselves praying for the grandchildren of many who no longer follow the Lord and are going the way of the world. We need to put on all of the armor of God if we are to stand in this day for it is a spiritual battle: the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of the gospel of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation and the sword of the spirit. (Ephesians 6) Let us not be flippant about the dangers, but know that they are real and we need all of the armor.
Just think of all that we have to look forward to! Even though we may suffer various things in this life, it is nothing compared to all that the Lord has prepared for us to enjoy for all eternity. Let us all seek to finish strong and with excitement for eternity.
A short time later I was reading in a book by Francis Chan, Beloved, and he wrote about how the Lord desires to be with us, to be near us and to eat with us. Not just a rushed meal that we gulp down but a lingering time of fellowshipping with Him. As it says in Revelation 3:20, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him and he with me.” I think it means a lingering meal like I had with my friend that was not rushed, but a time of enjoyable sharing.
Of course, the Lord likes to hear about our needs as well, but just like our times with friends, it good to both be able to be heard and to have fellowship together. I know I am often found guilty of rushing into my day without spending time really listening to the Lord and simply enjoying His presence. Chan tells about a college professor who asked his class to spend seven minutes silently with the Lord each morning, and nearly the whole class couldn’t do it. They were so used to their music and phones and all the distractions. But how are we going to grow in our love for the Lord if we don’t take time to be with Him? My challenge for you and for me in this New Year is to spend time with the Lord each day, and include five minutes of silence to just enjoy and listen to Him.
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