Category: Brother Al (Page 38 of 68)

I begin this post by quoting Galatians 2:20 from the amplified version.  “I have been crucified with Christ [that is, in Him I have shared His crucifixion]; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.  The life I now live in the body I live by faith [by adhering to, replying on, and completely trusting] in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.”  The expanded Bible put it this way.  “I was put to death on the cross [have been crucified] with Christ, and I do not live anymore – it is Christ who lives in me.  I still live in my body [flesh], but I live by faith in [or because of the faithfulness of ] the Son of God who loved me and gave himself to save me [for me; on my behalf].”

The amplified tells me that I have shared Christ’s crucifixion, while the expanded says “I was put to death on the cross.”  Sometimes this is hard to practice, especially when you are blindsided.   Francois Fenelon, a 17th century spiritual guide talks about volunteering for your own death.  He informs me that “I don’t need to be cured but killed; that is, brought to death…..When God aims to kill my self-nature, He touches the tenderest spot.”  This can be very painful.  His advise – “Never be discouraged with yourself.  Despondency is not humility.  Actually despondency is the despair of your wounded pride.  Your faults may be useful to you if they cure you of the vain confidence you have in yourself.”

I share Gal 2:2o and Fenelon’s perspective on spiritual  death because of a recent incident I had with one of my children’s annual family visit to the lake.  After my wife, my greatest concern spiritual is for my family.  With all my heart, I desire to be a loving, caring presence for my teenage grandchildren.  Well, I blow it royally.  I got angry and had to walk away from a particular situation.  I was despondent.  Yes, it was the despair of my wounded pride. It was painful.  Fenelon reminds me, “……sensitivity points out that there is still something alive within that has not died to self.”  I knew I was wrong in my behavior.

I  had to leave.   So I got on my four wheeler and went for a long ride.  I wanted to cry. I was confused, angry and as usual, spent time beating myself up.  I ran into my neighbor, Randy.  I asked him to be my confessor.  I confessed my anger towards my grandkids and asked God to forgive me.  Randy pronounced the absolution allowing me to hear I am forgiven and even more important, that I could forgive myself.  I went back to the family, forgiven with peace in my heart. I was able to ask my family and especially the grandkids forgiveness.

Here is what I am continuing to learn.  First, God will use very unexpected circumstances to keep me humble.  This always sends me back to “square one” knowing how dependent I am on the grace and mercy of God to be able to live a crucified life.  Secondly, I get less despondent when I fall short in front of my family.  For that I am thankful.  “Your failures,” notes Fenelon, “don’t make you displeasing to God.  He sees your deepest feelings.  It is a long process toward being completely dead to your selfishness.”  Thirdly,  I am grateful that I can share my faults with all who read this blog.  I can’t tell you how liberating it feels.  “God loves me in all my stink.”  Amen!!!

According to Pew Research, in 2016, men aged 18 to 36 were more likely to still be sharing a roof with their parents than living alone or with a roommate or partner.  Nearly 40 years ago, only 6.3 percent of prime-age men did not work at all over the course of a year.  In 2016, it was nearly double that.  More and more young people are getting stuck in the transition between childhood and adulthood.  We are seeing the “Peter Pan Syndrome” among younger men.  Karol Markowicz calls this phenomena, “the failure to launch.”  She quotes a 2010 study that found that boys have “higher rates of suicide, conduct disorders, emotional disturbance, premature death and juvenile delinquency than their female peer, as well as lower grades, test scores and college attendance rates.”

I got to reflecting on how I got launched.  I will soon be 77 years old.  I have live my life as a man.  I have had my share of struggles in getting launched and learning to live as a loving, responsible and faithful man.  Upholding my launch and journey as a man has been the Lordship of Jesus.  I testify with Paul,”I resolved to know nothing…..except Jesus Christ and him crucified” (I Cor 1:2). Jesus has been first in my life since my early conversion at age 18. I owe all to Jesus. Here are some bench marks to my launch and journey. May it be of some help to men reading this blog.

First, family of origins. I came to honor and respect my mother and father, while learning to separate emotionally.  Jesus said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Matt 19:5).  I never forgot the warning of Proverbs 20:20, “Whoever curses his father or mother – his lamp will go out in deep darkness.”  Men, I can not stress the importance  living in a spirit of forgiveness toward  your parents.  Show gratitude as you love and respect them as your parents.  It is absolutely foundational to getting properly launched.

Second, getting married.  The words of Eph 5:25, “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church” became the guiding principle in my life.  If I was to become one flesh with Judy, I would have to love her as my own body.  This soulful relationship, continues to be the biggest challenge to my growth as a man.  I am what I am in relationship to my wife.  The launch into marriage will become the measure of a man.

Third, becoming a father. I was ill prepared for this part of my launch. I was confronted with my selfishness.  After my commitment to my wife, being a father was most important in my life.  This included my career as a Pastor.  I soon realized that my three kids had only one father.  They needed me.  Now as a grandfather they still need me; especially prayer.  Ps. 127:3-4 tells us, “Children are a gift from the Lord, they are a reward from him.  Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands.”

Fourth, service to the King. I have desired all my adult life to give humble, loving service to King Jesus.  I give full allegiance to him, even though the culture opposes the King and his Kingdom.  I testify with Paul, “I calculate everything as a loss, because knowing King Jesus as my Lord is worth for more than everything else put together” ( Phil 3:8 – Wright).

Fifth, becoming an elder.  Now I have the joy of passing it on.  I take comfort in Ps 92:14, “Even in old age they will still produce fruit; they will remain vital and green.”

In my study of the prophet Isaiah, I am intrigued by God’s word to the people in Is. 8: 11-13 regarding conspiracy.  “The Lord spoke to me with his strong hand upon me, warning me not to follow the way of this people. He said,  ‘Do not call conspiracy everything that these people call conspiracy; do not fear what they fear, and do not dread it. The Lord Almighty is the one you are to regard as holy, he is the one you are to fear, he is the one you are to dread…..’.”  Phillips translation reads,  “Pay no attention to the rumors of this people, and do not be afraid of what they fear nor be in dread of it.”

The footnote in the NIVZSB give this insight. “Two different understandings of history:  1) Give God the central place that only the Holy One must have, or 2) explain historical events as the result of human conspiracy, with the constant dread of the unknown that this view engenders. Yahweh counsels Isaiah that if he is going to dread something, it ought to be the Lord Almighty (cf. Matt. 10:28).”  Isaiah declares, “He will keep you safe “(14).

For those  fearful of the rumors, “The Holy can be either a Hiding Place or a Boulder blocking your way, the Rock standing in the willful way of both houses of Israel, a barbed-wire fence preventing trespass  to the citizens of Jerusalem.  Many of them are going to run into that Rock and get their bones broken, get tangled up in that barbed wire and not get free of it” (Is. 8:14-16 – Message).  By not trusting God’s purpose in history the people of Jerusalem would be blocked by a boulder and run into a barbed-wire fence.  This can be our fate if we loss our trust in Jesus. The future is full of uncertainty when we are swayed by rumors.

For the people of Judah, fear of invasion was a constant threat. Some of the people regarded Isaiah’s message of non-involvement with Assyria as treasonous, part of a conspiracy.  But Isaiah was not being political, rather he was exhorting the people to fear and trust  the Lord.  Fear caused by rumors can be a real enemy to  our faith and a deterrent to our peace of mind.  Isaiah did not know what the outcome would be, but he was confident in God.  His advice was to  wait and hope in God. “Then I will wait for the Lord, who is hiding his face from the house of Jacob, and I will rest my hope in him” (v. 17 – Phillips).  Even though God was bringing judgment on his people, Isaiah was determined to wait for the Lord.

Men, I find it hard to  wait and trust the Lord.  Like you, I try to make sense of the political, social and cultural issues of our day.  I find that I can be swayed by rumors.  Ultimately I don’t know who to trust with any degree of confidence.  I become fearful concerning the direction of our country. When I let myself project into the future, there are days when I feel an awful dread.

Isaiah visualizes a level road while  we wait for God’s judgments. “The road of the righteous is a level road, you smooth out the way of the righteous.  We have waited in the path of your judgments, Lord, longing in our hearts for a sign of you” (Is. 26:7-8 – Phillips). Isaiah gives those who wait for the Lord hope in the unexpected work of God.  “For since the world began, no ear has heard, and no eye has seen a God like you, who works for those who wait for him! (Is. 64:4).

In Isaiah 59:9-12, the prophet offers a prayer of confession appropriate to the spiritual condition of the people of God. Rather then blaming God or the culture Isaiah  identifies with the people, lamenting “there is no justice among us, and we know nothing about right living” (Is 59:9 NLT).  He prays further: “We look for light but find only darkness. We look for bright skies but walk in gloom.  We grope like the blind along a wall, feeling our way like people without eyes.  Even at brightest noontime, we stumble as though it were dark.  Among the living, we are like the dead.  We growl like hungry bears; we morn like mourning doves.  We look or justice, but it never comes.  We look for rescue, but it is far away from us’ (Is. 59:9-12  NLT).

Bible scholar Barry Webb says of this passage: “It is hard to imagine a situation more desperate in the life of God’s people than the one described here…..there is still one element of hope, and that, is the lament itself.  As long as there are people who weep, apostasy is not total.  The faithful few hold the door ajar, so to speak, for God to enter the situation again and drive the darkness back.”  Men I suggest lament as a helpful spiritual practice in our day.

In the collective consciousness of our nation, I wonder if there is not the sense that we are “‘groping like the blind along a wall” responding like dead men walking, “knowing nothing about living.” Even at noontime we still stumble as though it were darkness.  It seems like the ‘lights have  gone out.” But as followers of Jesus we are walking “in the light of the Lord” (Is. 2:5).  While fixing our gaze upon Jesus, we  can learn to lament as we continually cry out for God to be merciful toward  our  nation.  We have lost our way, and only the Lord can help us find our way back.

Isaiah living among and identified with the people he led to  confession of their sins.  His prayer comes after his discerned the human condition all around him to be  desperate, knowing  the people were not capable of  needed change.  The mood was like that of an angry trapped bear, along with a mourning similar to that of the dove. It is one of sullen anguish, expressed today in lack of civility, expressed in accusations on all sides.  Isaiah’s listeners  kept looking  for “justice” but to no avail. The unhinging of the culture could not be changed.   They hoped  for “rescue” but it was not within reach.  They felt trapped with no way out.

Isaiah is pointing the people to look to God.  They are to  humbly confess the waywardness of their nation.  “For our offenses are many in your sight, and our sins testify against us, our offenses are ever with us, and we acknowledge our iniquities” (Is. 59:12 NLT). Attempting  to walk in the light amidst the ever increasing darkness, I have come to make these words a continual prayer, as I try to make some sense out of heated political and social discord in our nation.

Like Isaiah I live in a culture, where we, “stumble as though it were dark.”  I claim the promise of Isaiah 60:1 spoken by God through the prophet, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.”  This light will never be overcome.  We have the promise: “The Light shines on in the darkness, and the darkness did not understand it or overpower it or appropriate it or absorb it [and is unreceptive to it]” (John 1:5 – amplified).

At the recent MTV Movie & TV awards, Hollywood superstar, Christ Pratt was awarded the Generation Award. After receiving the award he told fans to “listen up,” because he was speaking “as your elder.”  He used the occasion to recite what CNN called his “Nine Rules for Living.”  Among his rules were: “You have a soul.  Be careful with it.”  “God is real.  God loves you. God wants the best fro you.  Believe that, I do.”  “Learn to pray.  It’s easy, and its’ so good for your soul.”

Film critic Titus Techera noted that Pratt was trying to turn celebrity worship upside down. “The best celebrities can do is bear well the burden of our wrong-headed worship – not to throw it of, but gently and humorously  point us in the direction of what’s truly divine and thus worth worshiping.”  This is what Chris Pratt was trying to do  with his nine rules. In recent years, the actor has become increasingly candid about his faith.

This was his 9th rule.  “Nobody is perfect.  People are going to tell you’re perfect just the way you are.  You’re not!  You are imperfect.  You always will be.  But there is a powerful force that designed you that way.  And if you’re willing to accept that, then you will have grace.  And grace is a gift.  And like the freedom we enjoy in this country, that grace was paid for with somebody else’s blood.  Do not forget it.  Don’t take it for granted.”  The video of Pratt’s comments when viral.

The producers switched from one camera to another after Pratt’s reference to “a powerful force that designed you that way.”  Since the program was prerecorded, it could be that an explicit reference to Jesus was edited out.  While one might quibble with how Pratt articulated  his theology, he sent a clear message to a generation of young people who have come to believe the lie about their being just fine the way they are..  David French observed that Pratt was, “speaking to a generation of young people who know that something is very deeply wrong.  It’s a generation wracked by depression and anxiety in spite – or perhaps because – of the fact that they’re told time and again how perfect they are.”

As I am writing this blog, I have been listening to a new song by Lauren Daigle, entitled “You Are.”  I am weeping as I listen to the words and the passion of the music.  Please listen to it if you are feeling lost, lonely, or overcome by the negative message of our culture with regards to who you are.  It is beautiful.  Give the song as a gift to your children.  It is a prophetic message to a lost generation.  Here are a few lines: “Remind me once again of who I am because I need to know –  You say I am loved, when I can’t feel a thing  – You say I am strong when I think I am weak  – You say I am held, when I am falling apart  – when I don’t belong You say I am Yours.  – Oh, I believe what you think of me.”

Men, remember the story of Jesus and the one lost sheep.  “Does he not leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it?  And when He finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home” (Luke 15:4-5).  The Lord tells us, “Can a mother forget the infant at her breast, walk away from the baby she bore?  But even if mothers forget, I’ll never forget you – never.” (Is 49: 15-16 – Message).  He will not forget us.

In his book Building Your Band of Brothers, Stephen Mansfield makes this observation: “Men are made to protect the territory assigned to them and to assure that everything within that territory fulfills its God-ordained purpose.”  “Manly men tend their field” is a vibrant theme in Mansfield’s work with men.  It is based on II Cor. 10:13,  where Paul defines the boundaries of his responsibility. “We, however, will not boast beyond proper limits, but will confine our boasting to the field God has assigned to us, a field that reaches even to you.”   Men, how well are you protecting your field?  Many men are missing in action,  having surrendered their responsibility in this area.

This blog comes as a Wildman Alert: “Don’t get taken out!” Don’t let the evil one take you out as a manly man. “The thief,” Jesus warns, ” comes only to steal and kill and destroy” (John 10:10).  Men, we are warned: “Be sober [well balanced and self-disciplined], be alert and cautious at all times. That enemy of yours, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion [fiercely hungry], seeking someone to devour” (I Peter 5:8 – Amplified).  Satan is cunning and cruel.  “He attacks when least expected and desires to destroy completely those whom he attacks” (Amplified  footnote).

Recently I was mediating on Matthew 24, where Jesus tell us to “keep watch” and to be ready.  “If the owner of the house had known at what time of night the thief was coming, he would have kept watch and would not have let his house be broken into” (Matt. 24:43).  I had been going through some “emotional and spiritual turbulence” with my lovely bride.  I was withdrawn in my spirit, causing me to neglect my wife.  Then I woke up to the realization that I had allowed the enemy to break into my spiritual house.  He was robbing our marriage of its usual harmony and oneness.  I cried out for mercy, repenting of my attitude and rebuking the enemy’s presence in my marriage. I had almost been taken out.

Men, our primary assignment is tend and protect our home, that is, our marriage and family.  The enemy wants to take you out. I was missing in action, licking my self-righteous wounds, justifying my attitude and finding ways to blame my wife for her behavior.  When I stood and rebuked the enemy, I immediately felt a heaviness lift and a new energy to engage with my wife more deeply.  I had to confess to my wife my selfish withdrawal from her.  I had not been alert.  The enemy had gotten me with his “flaming arrows.”

Here is what I want you to know from my experience of almost being taken out: 

1. Don’t let your guard down. We need to be awake.  That means practicing the presence of Jesus.  Live in his presence throughout the day, no matter what you are doing.  His Spirit will alert you to the dangers of the enemy.  It came to me in a flash of a moment. I knew immediately why there was such “spiritual turbulence” in my home.
2. Stand in the strength of the Lord.  Your wife and kids can not do this for you.  You are responsible for protecting your family.  Ask Jesus for his help.
3. Tend your field. Being AWOL is not an option.  God asked Adam, “Where are you?”  What do you have to say about tending our field? 
4. Stay engaged spiritually. The enemy will attack you.  He wants to take you out of action. That means making your relationship with the Lord central to all you do.

I have only recently become aware of “The Incel Movement.”  On April  23, 2018, a van allegedly driven by Alek Minassian, drove onto a sidewalk in downtown Toronto, killing ten people and wounding eighteen others.  On his Facebook page, Minassian pledged allegiance to the “Incel Rebellion.”  “Incel” stands for ‘involuntarily celibate.” As Vox.com explains, the “rebellion” is “not an organized militant group but rather an idea developed by…An online community of men united by their inability to convince women to have [intimate relations] with them.”   David French observed the movement, “essential blames women for being attracted to strong or rich men.  And it’s a theory that’s steeped in sexual entitlement, the belief that men somehow have a right to have sex.”

The frustration and loneliness  felt by younger men is only a natural consequence of the sexual revolution.  Ross Douthat wrote in his column “the culture’s dominant message about sex is still essentially Hefnerian……a message that frequency and variety…..is as close to a summum bonum as the human condition has to offer…..virginity and celibacy are at best strange and at worst pitiable states.”  The reality for some young men is the expectation and  entitlement concerning sex cannot be fulfilled in the real world. “Sometimes, to love someone…..you gotta be a stranger” is a typical sentiment.

Here are a few of my thoughts as I celebrate 53 years of marriage (June 11) to the same woman, who is like good wine – better with age.

1) Don’t forget to check with the creator of sex.  Jesus reminds us that from the beginning, “God made them male and female…Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split what God has joined together” (Mat 19:4 & 6).  The sexual revolution of our day has rejected God’s design for man and woman being joined together in life long commitment.  God patterned human love on his love for us.  To be fulfilled it is best to consult with the creator.

2) The Incel Movement is the result of the wide consumption of pornographic activity on the internet.  Young men especially have found a safe, hidden place  to indulge their sexual fantasies without absolutely no emotional investment.  Any man, who has a happy, fulfilling marriage, will attest to marriage being what the early monks called a ” white martyrdom.”  The fullness of sexual intimacy involves the hard work of establishing emotional intimacy and spiritual oneness before the actual act.

3) These are broken men who believe sexual relationships with a woman is a right.  But fulfillment comes not in the getting but in the giving to the other.  The sexual revolution made personal pleasure and fulfillment the norm.  Thus lonely, frustrated and confused young men demand that others fulfill their fantasies.  “Ideas have consequences,” John Stonestreet notes, “and bad ideas have victims.”  These young men are victims.  The incel movement proves that the sexual revolution was full of bad ideas.

4) Disorder desires make for “bent sexuality.”  It is our disordered desires that lead us astray. The sexual revolution elevated the sexual experience to a kind of quasi-religious status.  Every spiritual man reading this blog is aware of “the tiger in his tank.”  Many years ago I took Paul’s advice to heart. “It is better for them [young men] to be married than to be tortured by unsatisfied desires” (I Cor 7:9 – Phillips). White martyrdom with my bride has helped me deal with my disordered desires.

5) One final thought, which is revolutionary in our day  Sex is holy.  It a  search for union.  Sexual union finds its meaning ultimately in union with Christ.  Paul tells us, “The marriage relationship is a great mystery, but I see it as a symbol of the marriage of Christ and his Church” (Eph. 5:32 – Phillips).

This is a follow up blog about Alexander Solzhenitsyn. He suffered greatly while being imprisoned.  He won the 1970 Nobel Prize in Literature for his powerful writing on communist oppression and spiritual emptiness.  His 1962 novel, “One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich” described life in a Stalinist labor camp.  By 1973 Solzhentisyn had published “The Gulap Archipelago” which exposed the system of labor camps in Russia, resulting in his 1974 expulsion from the Soviet Union.

As a young pastor I remember His voice being clear, distinct and uncompromising, compared to the moral and ethical uncertainty of American culture. He gave me courage and a desire to speak the truth.  Here is a quote that made a lasting  impression on me as I was forming my theological view of reality.  After his imprisonment in the Russian gulap of Joseph Stalin’s “corrective labor camps” Solzhenitsyn wrote:

“It was granted to me to carry away from my prison years on my bent back, which nearly broke beneath its load, this essential experience: how a human being becomes evil and how good.  In the intoxication of youthful successes I had felt myself to be infallible, and I was therefore cruel.  In the surfeit of power I was a murderer and an oppressor.  In my most evil moments I was convinced that I was doing good, and I was well supplied with systematic arguments.  It was only when I lay there on rotting prison straw that I sensed within myself the first stirrings of good.   Gradually it was disclosed to me that the line separating good and evil passes not through states, not between classes, nor between political parties either – but right through every human heart – and through all human hearts…..That is why I turn back to the years of my imprisonment and say, sometimes to the astonishment of those about me: ‘Bless you, prison,’ for having been in my life!'”

Solzhenitsyn acknowledges his youthful arrogance, believing that he was doing good while being blind to his cruelty.  By the amazing grace of God, while lying on “rotting prison straw”  he felt the “first stirrings of good” in his own soul.  It was then that he came to see that the line that separated “good and evil passed through every human heart.”  I never forgot those words.  Solzhenitsyn was able to bless his time in prison for helping him form a conviction about good and evil. He wrote elsewhere, “If only it were so simple.  If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds and it was necessary only to separate them.  But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.  And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart.”

In those formative years I also remember Henri Nouwen’s words characterizing Thomas Merton: “Merton knew only too well that the sin, evil and violence that he found in the world, were the same sin, the same evil, and the same violence that he had discovered in his own heart…..The impurity in the world was a mirror of the impurity in his own heart.”

Ever since those days, I’ve learned to accept, even though I want at times to deny, the presence of  good and evil in my own heart. It has kept me humbly dependent on God’s grace, living with “moral realism.”  Regarding himself, Paul said, “But God had mercy on me so that Christ Jesus could use me as a prime example of his great patience with even the worst of sinners” ( I Tim 1:16). David acknowledged, “But I am conscious of my rebellion, and my sin is always before me” (Ps. 51:3).

June 8th marked the 40th anniversary of “A World Split Apart,” the commencement address delivered by Aleksandr Solzhentisyn at Harvard University.  Chuck Colson considered it “one of the most prophetic and eloquent” commencement addresses ever given.  As a young pastor (37), I remember how I admired Solzhentisyn for his courage and candor.   It was a reminder  of Ezk. 2:5 “Whether they listen or refuse to listen – for they are a rebellious house – they will know that a prophet has been been among them.”  He warned his audience of a “disaster in the calamity of a despirtualized and irreligious humanistic consciousness” in the West.

He began by accusing the West of evading the truth.  “Truth eludes us if we do not concentrate our attention totally on it’s pursuit… the illusion of knowing it still lingers and leads to many misunderstandings….truth seldom is pleasant; it is almost invariably bitter.”  He warned against “destructive and irresponsible freedom” and what he called “the abyss of human decadence.” He wonder what would “redeem the 20th century’s moral poverty.”

Solzhenitsyn did not view the West as a model for the rest of the world, but rather saw us in a “state of spiritual exhaustion.”  The decline in courage was the most striking feature of the West.  “Such a decline in courage is particularly  noticeable among the ruling groups and the intellectual elite, causing an impression of courage by the entire society.” Our policies were based on “weakness” and “cowardice.”

He faults the West for the abandonment of  its moral and spiritual ideals.  The West was spiritually sick. Our moral decline was the result of forgetting God.  People worship themselves, deifying their own desires, while falling into an idolatry of the self, because they had forgotten there is someone higher than themselves.”  We suffer from the delusion of thinking we are “the center of everything that exists,” believing we are not accountable to “any higher force.”

Speaking like an Old Testament prophet, Solzhenitsyn visualized a fight of cosmic proportions that had already begun.  “The forces of evil have begun their offensive; you can feel their pressure, and yet your screens and publications are full of prescribed smiles and raised glasses.”  No weapons will be useful since we have lost our willpower.  “To defend oneself, one must also be ready to die.”  The alternative is concession and “attempts to gain time.”

Our  turning away from the Spirit caused a blindness to “the existence of intrinsic evil in man.” “Turning our backs upon the Spirit, with life not having an superior sense, provided an access to evil” of which there was a free and constant flow.  We  have placed too much hope in “political and social reforms, only to find out that we were being deprived of our most precious possession: our spiritual life.” “Man’s sense of responsibility to God and society grew dimmer and dimmer.”

As Solzhentisyn closes his remarks he gives this warning, “If the world has not come it its end, it has approached a major turn in history….it will exact from us a spiritual upsurge….This ascension will be similar to climbing onto the next anthropologic stage.  No one on earth has any other way left but – upward.”

Men, these are the words of a prophet. Forty years later, our cultural crisis confirms  his prophetic words.  He describes our culture as spiritual sick and exhausted, living in moral poverty.   He warned of a fight that would be of cosmic proportions with the constant and free flow of evil.  His advice was to look upward, that is, to the Lord.   Prophets have a shock and awe affect when they speak.  Go read the prophet’s speech for yourself.  It is readily available on line.

I remember well the large “Promise Keepers” events during the mid 90’s.  I attended the first two at the old Metrodome in Minneapolis.  There were over 60,000 men in attendance.  It was like a hug pep rally for Jesus, with men shouting praises to God, making heartfelt commitments to be men of God.   The energy from these “spiritual pep rallies” created instant followers of Jesus. Female reporters from local papers came to spy, searching for an explanation for the gathering.  But it  simply could not be explained in the natural.

Obviously it was the Spirit of God.  I brought men, both young and old, including my two sons.   It was a inspiring time of be a man of God.  What a difference 25 years makes.  In those days, there was a tangible sense of God working in the lives of men.  Today, however, men are accused of “toxic masculinity” while the #MeToo movement is exposing men as sexual predators.  What happened?  The national consciousness has certainly turned hostile regarding the masculine – and men in general.

Large movements that offer the spiritual boost of a pep rally tend to be ineffective in helping sustain a healthy spiritual life. Men need consistent, face-to-face relationships with other men. Real change comes through small groups of men (like a Band of Brothers), that are intentional about lifestyle change and character formation.  The AA model of soul care brings such  change. Most men are reluctant to join.  They need to see the value of being vulnerable with other guys.  They need to know it is safe.

A recent article in Christianity Today concluded by saying, “The future of men’s ministry will remain small for a long time.”  I agree.  Large group gatherings, a monthly men’s event, and even an annual retreat will not bring the transformation needed for men to grow in Christlikeness in a post-Christian culture.  It might create a spark, but not light the fire needed to foster true change.  “Stereotypes about ‘that’s just how men are’ have turned much darker in the last few years.”

In this blog, I assume I am appealing to committed men, who want to follow Jesus. We need to  accept the cultural narrative regarding  toxic masculinity.  Paul encourages us to be lights, “Once you were ‘darkness’ but now as Christians you are ‘light’ – Live then as Children of light” (Eph. 5:8 – Phillips).  My warning is not to become isolated in shame, failure and loneliness.  “Men are awash in a sea of casual relationships,” states author Stephen Mansfield.  Men, he noted, have “no one who would hold them accountable if their life went off the rails.”

There is a strong connection between loneliness, feelings of failure, and bad male behavior.  I agree with Nate Pyle who worries that the ideal Christian man described by many contemporary men’s ministries is always in control. “Fear or loneliness or failure become places of shame,” notes Pyle.  Being in control can produce moralism and perfectionism which leads to shame and sense of failure.

A Band of Brothers, meeting as a male support group, challenges being in control by the admission of ” helplessness.”  Men find support from other men who admit to struggles.  Men honestly sharing their story of  failure, hidden secrets, hope and faith, help other men to find their voice to share their struggle.  Paul tells us, “Even if  a man should be detected in some sin, my brothers, the spiritual ones among you should quietly set him back on the right path, not with any feeling of superiority but being yourselves on guard against temptation” (Gal 6:1-2 – Phillips).