Richard V. Reeves, who has become an outspoken voice for boys, had some insightful observations about the election, in his blog  entitled, “Memo to Dems: Don’t blame sexism,” with a subtitle, “Or it will be longer than four years in the political wilderness.”  He is rather blunt when he points out, “If the Democrats conclude that sexism propelled Donald Trump to victory, their spell in the political wilderness will last a lot longer than four years.”   Reeves believes, “There is no strong evidence that young men are turning against gender equality.”  But Reeves does believe, ” they [young men] have turned away from the left because the left has turned away from them.  The problems of young men are not the confections of reactionaries.  This is a story of elite neglect, not voter chauvinism.”  

Then Reeves recites a litany of issues regarding men and boys as he  called attention to: “Suicide rates among men under 30 have risen by 40 % since 2010 and are four times higher than among young women.   Male suicide accounts for as many deaths as breast cancer.  Men are less likely than women to go to college or buy a house.  They are more likely to be lonely and are more vulnerable to addiction.  Young white men from lower-income homes are worse off than their fathers on almost every economic and social indicator.  There is a bigger gender gap on the campuses today than in 1972 – when the government passed Title IX to prevent sex-based discrimination in education – but today the disparities in college enrollment and performance are the other way around.”

In Reeves’ opinion the Democrats and progressives have “a massive blind spot” with male issues.  “Men are seen not as having problems but as being the problem.”  Young men have resisted terms like “toxic masculinity” and “patriarchy” specially as they struggle to find their place in the economy.  “For too long,” observes Reeves, “the gender debate has been trapped in a zero-sum frame.”  “Policy makers have overlooked the challenges that are increasingly affecting boys and men, seeing them as somehow in conflict with their efforts on behalf of girls and women.”

The results of the elections should bring about a new approach to boys and men and the issues they care about.  Reeves closes with this observation.  “Voters are capable of holding two thoughts in their head at once: that there is much more work to do for women and girls, and that we must also pay more attention to the  challenge facing boys and men.  In the end, we rise together.” 

Here are some of my thoughts after digesting Reeves’ blog:

1. It seems Reeves has become more outspoken for men and boys.  I believe the time has come for the rest of us to dare speak up for a Christian model of man and wife, going back to creation. “He created them male and female, and blessed them” (Gen. 5:2).  We can grow in “speaking the truth in love” (Eph 4:15).

2. My wife and I, have lived with a complementarity view of marriage for almost 60 years.  I am calling men back to consider anew the challenge of Jesus. “Haven’t you read that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female'” (Matt. 19:4).  Lord, help me be a good example.

3.  There is a desperate need for older men, like myself to reach the younger generation.  I am grateful and humbled at how God has carried Judy and I over these years. “I will be your God throughout your lifetime – until your hair is white with age.  I made you, and I will care for you.  I will carry you along and save you” (Is. 46:3b-4).