The recent election has exposed a gender gap in our culture.  Mary Eberstadt wrote a very concise article in First Things on this subject.  She begins by observing, “Red and blue Americans are locked in a hostile custody battle” with an awareness that”the gender gap has never been wider.”  The Wall Street Journal reported in July of young men leaning more rightward than young women.  She noted the influence of online “alpha males” where young men hear, “the song that today’s young men sing among themselves sound the same – and only the political right seems to be listening.”  

“The Intellectual Dark Web”  is populated by men finding a fusion between repudiating identity politics and standing for freedom of expression.  In regards to identity politics, there seems to be a “synergy between enthusiasm for sports and contempt for political correctness.”  The doomed 2023 Bud Light ad,  united bros found a “cause that their enlightened betters couldn’t shut down,” in a rebuke of gender bending.  Forbidden wisdom can be heard on the Web: “men and women are different, sterilizing kids is wrong, marriage and family are the way to go.”

Eberstadt observes, “Today’s New Right, like today’s populism, is powered in large part by a search for male authority, direction and amour propre – a triad visible to anyone who can spell ‘Jordon Peterson.'”   “Today’s young men,” believes Eberstadt,  “don’t need another nanny……. they need something…….lacking at home and searching for in politics.” They need a “daddy.”  She observes in our day, “superior players haven’t a clue anymore about what makes young men tick – whether it’s driving fast, failing to ask strangers for directions, treating Sunday football like church, or saving a subway car full of strangers from disaster……these players haven’t only lost the script about young men.  They’ve unlearned the alphabet of human nature.”

Eberstadt notes the need for “male self-respect.”  “It’s grounded in the belief that rules exist and retain their authority, from baseball to church to war……The real mystery in the political sex imbalance isn’t about boys and men, but girls and women.”  Since the 1960’s we’ve heard the same message, “men are bad; the future is feminine, career first, egg-freezing next; the best ending after falling for someone and making a baby together is to get rid of it.”  

Eberstadt ends by noting how the creation story has been passed over by seeing men and women as  “minor anatomical variations.”  “If that were true, the gender gap wouldn’t exist in the first place.  Politics didn’t create this divide.  But in the political quarterbacking to come, its real origins demand a closer, more empathic look than they’ve yet gotten anywhere.”

Wow, I rejoice in a strong Catholic woman saying what I’ve needed courage to say.  Our culture has, “not only lost the script,” but we have “unlearned the alphabet of human nature.” The real origins of male and female will “demand a closer, more empathetic look then they’ve yet gotten anywhere.” I began writing this blog in the summer of 2009.  That is 14 years ago, when I was 68.  Through the 70’s into the confusion of our day, I have attempted to help men with their masculinity.  In 1968 the gender issue was not such a hot topic as it is today.  I have watched male issues change and evolve.   

The exposing of the gender gap, at least for me, is a wake up call to continue with the “wild man journey.”  I ask all who read this blog to join the struggle.  “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.” ( II Cor. 15:58)

As expected there has been a great deal of discussion regarding the results of the election.  Personally the results have confirmed views I have expressed on masculinity.  Of special interest to me are the voting trends of young men and male minorities.  While I have remained steadfast in my neutrality, due to the deep political divide in our culture, and my commitment to Jesus and his Kingdom as the ultimate answer, I find the “gender gap” phenomenon of great interest.  There is much that is insightful for the “wild man” journey.

I must confess, bringing clarity to the discussion is not my strength.  However, there is so much which is obvious that I feel I can share.  Much of what I have absorbed, as a elderly, white, Christian male has been reinforced by my wonderful wife of 59 years.  I consider our deep discussion on gender roles a valuable point of reference for younger men, trying to make sense of “the gender wars” of our day.  So this could lead into a series of blogs. 

First, Aaron Renn’s observations.  He observes, “As had been said by others, there’s a difference between being a good man and being good at being a man.  Masculine virtues and expectations are not exactly amoral, but can often be expressed in both good and bad ways.”  Using the attempted assassination of Trump and his now iconic shout of “fight, fight,”  Renn believes “Trump’s courage under actual fire helps to explain his appeal to men, especially young men.”  For me personally, while acknowledging Mr. Trump’s moral flaws and lack of Christian character, I raise up in admiration when He want to fight for “the little, forgotten guy” and the neglected American.

Renn, using anthropologist David Gilmore’s work, notes, “Trump, for all his flaws, models many traditional masculine attributes that young men would do well to adopt.”  The former president is “high energy” and competitive, challenging young men who are getting launched.  He is “in the arena” willing to take substantial public risks.  He is capable of what Gilmore calls “absolute freedom of movement,” that is, he will press on despite overwhelming opposition.  And as Renn notes, “He even went back to hold another rally at the place where he was shot.”  Older and younger men, who are followers of Jesus need to be “engaged,” “in the arena” and willing to “press on” no matter what the cost.  As a man I admire Trump for this tough-nosed qualities.

Here is some sound advise from Renn.  “Young men must wed Trump’s masculine attributes to greater moral integrity and a mature style…. assertive manhood is not inherently toxic.  Even conservatives have too often equated being a good man with being a dutiful doormat.  Healthy masculinity is agentic, aggressive, competitive, courageous, and generous, productive,  moral and dignified.  Men need not consider these values to be in conflict.”

As a senior, who has lived through the cultural wars of the 60’s down through the present age, I know from personal experience of Gilmore’s conclusion that “cultures generally define manhood as an earned status.”  My favorite way of expressing masculinity in our day, is for men to see themselves as both “the lion” and “the lamb” (that is, tough and tender).  Jesus was the perfect lamb sacrificed for our sin, yet he is “the Lion of the tribe of Judah” (Rev. 5:5). The Revelation declares the Lamb as overcoming. “They will make war against the Lamb, but the Lamb will overcome them because he is Lord of Lords and King of King” (Rev. 17:14).  We are his followers are learning to tough and tender.