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In an “Institute for Family Studies” article, Philip Zimbardo and Nikita Coulombe have a very informative essay on the place of young men in our culture. “We determined,” the authors state, “that in our culture today, “boy energy” is at best not valued and at worst demonized. In response, young men are deciding that it’s not worth it for them to invest their time and energy back into society. Many are asking what is in it for them and only hear crickets.”
Boys in our day are getting left behind. They are “failing to launch,” evidenced in such symptoms as “a disenchantment with education, lack of motivation to work towards real-life goals, opting out of the workforce, self-imposed social isolation, and excessive video game and porn use.” The authors make reference to fatherlessness being on the rise. “… even the boys that have fathers in their lives,” notes the authors, “only spend a fraction of their time in one-on-one conversation with them versus the time they spend in front of a screen, where they see men depicted as emotionless warriors, deadbeat dads, or losers.”
Could the lack of “boy energy” reflect the absence of fathers and male mentors in the lives of boys? I think it points in that direction. My intention has been to be an encouragement to men, especially fathers.
Men need to evaluate the God-given position they have before God. “The Lord God placed the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it” (Gen 2:15 NLT). From the beginning, God first gave man the primary responsibility of rightly ordering relationships. Then he gave him a help mate. In the fierce “gender wars” men have vacated their male relational leadership post. Who will watch out for young men?
The authors place the blame on society for the lack of boy energy. “…it is society that is not providing the structure, guidance, means or places for young men to develop themselves and thrive.” They describe, “Boys going from female-dominated home environments to female-dominated school environments, back to female-dominated home environments – where boys are being told to behave.” Can godly men admit to themselves and those closest to them that they might have abandoned the place God has for them in society?
If you are a man reading this post, and sense you have abandoned your God-ordained place in relationships, it is not to late to return and stand. What can you do? In repentance and humility come before the Lord and admit that you have left your post as a man. Cry out to God for grace and mercy. Resist the desire to leave your relational responsibility. If it is sincere, God will delight in your request in wanting to stand where your belong. Don’t give in and flee.
The lack of “boy energy” is confirming a theme mentioned consistently in this blog. Energy is something that is caught and passed on from older men to younger men. “Masculinity is caught, not taught,” has been a consistent mantra. How do you pass on this energy? By opening your heart and spirit and just being you. Walk in integrity and honesty. “He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and walk humbly with your God” (Micah 6:8).
As a man with an open spirit, you have male energy flowing through you. In relating to younger men, you give them “father energy.” It is something that is desperately needed in our society today. You don’t have to fight or argue; just walk it out.
Dear Ones,
Hope your day is full of sunshine and joy. I spent much of morning in the kitchen with food prep and making stroganoff, and the house is still full of aroma. I went to my exercise class and later Al and I plan to walk and find a church for Lenten service.
Devotions from Judy’s heart
Our hearts were made to worship. When we neglect to worship, something is missing in our lives. There are those moments when our hearts are so grateful to the Lord that we have a deep need to just express what is in our hearts. Recently I specifically prayed for the Lord’s intervention before going to an event. I prayed all the way there and clearly saw God’s hand move, leaving me with such an awe of His presence and power. I praised Him all the way home as it flowed from my thankful heart. But we don’t need any special circumstance to usher up our praise, for the Lord is worthy of our praise all the time. When we feel alone or down, what better way to have our hearts uplifted than to begin to praise the One who is Life, and Joy, and Peace and Love. I was reading from Genesis 28 this morning when Jacob was trying to escape from his brother Esau; he had stolen his father’s blessing and Esau was angry enough to want to kill him. But when Jacob got as far as Haran he camped for the night and put his head on a stone. He dreamed about a stairway that reached to the sky and angels of God going up and down it. God made him a promise that the ground that he was sleeping on would belong to his descendants and that they would be as many as the dust of the earth and bless all the families of the earth. Verse 15 (The Message) says, “Yes, I’ll stay with you, I’ll protect you wherever you go, and I’ll bring you back to this very ground. I’ll stick with you until I’ve done everything I promised you.” You can imagine how Jacob felt when he woke up. He knew the Lord was in that place and the first thing he did was to make a memorial pillar in praise to God and poured oil on it and made a vow to the Lord. When our hearts are full there is need to do something to let it out and like the song goes, “Now is the time to worship”. Now is the time to bow our knees and give our hearts in surrender.
Challenge for today: Spend some time in worship and express praise for who God is!
Blessings on your day and prayers and love, Judy
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