Category: Sister Judy (Page 8 of 267)

Forgiveness is not a feeling, but an important decision we make to cancel someone else’s debt. If we refuse, we will find that it will waste our energy and time, and quenches the Holy Spirit. We will be left with anger and distain for the person. Then the anger has nowhere to go but to go within us, and it may cause various sicknesses. It is easy to look back with regret, but then we lose our effectiveness in the new thing we are currently involved in. We are told to forget the things that are behind and press on to what is ahead. (Phil. 3:13) Mother Teresa is a powerful example of someone who saw bitterness as a big obstacle to love. She didn’t focus on things done to her, but on the person who caused her hurt. She forgave what they did to her and prayed for them as she felt they must be hurting themselves. She gave them a fresh start.

Memories of old hurts may come to mind and instead of dwelling on them, it is better to thank the Lord that He has forgiven them, forgotten them and remembers them no more. That is sooooo wonderful and we don’t have to bring something up again. Maybe we think we can justify our response, but it is better to simply let it go. Let us release and forgive others who have hurt us and not keep opening up old wounds; instead let us walk in love and forgiveness.

We are not to read the Bible to reinforce some of our own viewpoints that might be different than others, but to be open to what the Holy Spirit would teach us. Only then will we be transformed into His likeness. We can ask the Lord to teach us truth in our inner selves as David did in Psalm 51:6, “Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being, and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart.” He goes on to ask God to create in him a clean heart and to renew a right spirit within him. His heart is soft and open to receive.

Christians are good at covering up hurts, thinking we are more spiritual if we ignore an offense and get over it quickly. But that is not a recipe for good health of body or soul. We must remember that forgiving someone is one thing, but forgetting takes time. We can forgive immediately, but only God can forget right away. Somehow, we have gotten the notion that we haven’t really forgiven unless we quickly forget as well. But that is not so, for they are two different things. We all may still have some negative unforgiving feelings for a while after we have forgiven a person. Dr. Martin Padovani reminds us that forgiveness is a decision, a choice and an act of our will and intellect. It can still be genuine even when we don’t have warm, positive feelings, as we are saying with our will, “I forgive you.” But the feelings of forgiveness may take some time, for we don’t have control over our feelings but we do have control on how we handle them.

Let’s say someone has hurt us and we have anything but warm feelings towards him. We feel the pain and there are some resentful feelings still in our mind, but we don’t act on them. We don’t have to be hard on ourselves and feel guilty, but give ourselves time to get over it and not overreact. We are to be gentle with ourselves and trust that in time our heart will heal, and we may have good feelings towards the person in the future. In the meantime, we treat him respectfully and take time to reason and reflect. Suppressing our anger only makes things worse.

We also have to struggle and be set free from anything that would block us from enjoying a life of freedom in the Lord. Maybe we are held captive by anxiety, worry, fear, guilt, depression etc. and we are not experiencing the wonderful life God has for us. We don’t need to stay in bondage but we can pray for the Lord to set us free. What follows is the need to be ready to obey whatever part is ours to do. The Holy Spirit desires that we follow His leading and He will give us courage and strength to do what is necessary for change.

Challenge for today: Any area you are not yet free, give to the Lord in trust and then do whatever part He has for you to do.
Blessings on your weekend and prayers and love, Judy

“Welcome one another, therefore, as Christ has welcomed you…—Romans 15:7 (RSV)

It was a cloudy, quiet July Fourth for us, that year of 1988. My husband worked. There were no parades. We’d decided not to spend the extra money on fireworks. You can barely see them, anyway, in Alaska’s summer twilight. We didn’t even have a picnic. Yet it’s the Fourth of July that I remember and treasure the most.

The two-story log home where we were living was not our own. We were house-sitting for the summer for our friends Lou and Elsa, who were visiting their native Czechoslovakia for the first time in twenty years. As a young married couple, they had fled the streets of Prague in terror when Soviet tanks swept through the city in 1968. For days before, Elsa had hidden beneath the bed in their cramped apartment with her two little girls. When they left, they could say good-bye to no one. They simply disappeared.

Lou and Elsa found a welcome in the United Sates, eventually making their way to Alaska. They learned English and worked hard. Lou, a master craftsman, fitted each log in their home with mortar and hope. Elsa tended a fruitful vegetable garden and produced wonderful aromas from kettles simmering in her tidy kitchen.

I was alone in Lou and Elsa’s living room in the afternoon on that Fourth of July, when I suddenly burst into tears. This is it, I thought. This is the real Fourth of July. They came to America to find “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness,” and here I am, standing in the middle of their dream. I had a glimpse of how precious this beautiful, bountiful country of ours really is. And so I waved the only flag I had … my tears, genuine and proud.