Dear Ones,
Hope you have a wonderful weekend. We enjoyed celebrating Ann’s birthday yesterday and thankful she got home safely with the snow. Today I am going to make smothered porkchops and clean the apt etc.
Devotions from Judy’s heart
How many of us have wondered if we will be provided for and if we will have enough? During Covid, we bought more than we needed at the store as we weren’t sure if there would be a run on toilet paper, meat, or many other things. We were left with fears of survival and just having a normal life again. It is especially a problem for children who did not receive nourishment and comfort from their mothers, for they grow up anxiously wondering if they will have enough. Since they lack emotional attachment-love, they miss the feeling of being seen, celebrated, and bringing joy into the world. God has made each of us to receive resilience and immunity through our mothers as our need for their love is met.

Many today suffer from mother deprivation, and it shows up later in our lives as mother wounds and a lack of ability to attach. John Eldredge, author and counselor, writes about children with compulsive tendencies to steal who all had mother deprivation. One family who adopted such a boy, had to lock things up every night in the house as he would steal, which was likely the result of unmet needs in his young life.

Although deprivation makes human attachments very hard, there is healing and hope for our souls. I love Isaiah 49:15-16a, “Can a mother forget the infant at her breast, walk away from the baby she bore? But even if mothers forget, I’d never forget you—never. Look, I’ve written your names on he backs of my hands.”  God loves each of us and is the source of all mothering. No matter if we got the mother-love we needed, Aldredge writes, “We need to come home to the mother-love of God, regardless of what we learned from our earthly mothers.”

There is hope for meaningful attachment love, as when we know the Lord we are like branches that are attached to the vine and draw our nourishment from Him. It is His life that flows through us each day. (John 15) God’s love can even flow to those empty places inside of us, including the place of mother need. We can invite Him into our need for that love and nourishment. A few words of the prayer given by John Eldredge follows:

Challenge for today: If you lack that mother-love pray the following, “Lord, I need a deep, bonded love with you. I need attachment here in the place of my soul you created for attachment. Come, healing God, and heal me… I invite you into my need for primal love and primal nourishment. Nourish me here, just as you promised… I invite you into my need for the primal blessings of my being, my existence…I forgive my mom, I do. I forgive her and release her…Fill me with attachment love and fill me with the assurance of abundance. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hope you have a good weekend and prayers and love, Judy