Happy Weekend! Hope you have time to enjoy this holiday weekend and have time to relax and be with family and friends. Today is party day here so we will be going to Costco to get the Birthday cake and then setting up for the party. Devotions from Judy’s heart When we come to know the Lord, that is just the beginning of our journey, for just like a baby we need to be nurtured and to grow. Too many Christians stay in the baby stage and don’t go on to become mature in the Lord. It is as we spend time with the Lord and in His word, that we will recognize His voice and be able to follow Him in obedience. But there is more! We are not to stop there but also to share our faith in the Lord with others and be witnesses and lights. There are so many broken and lonely people today that need someone to point them to the Lord. Jesus told His disciples, “Look around you, and see how the fields are ripe for harvesting.” (John 4:35) We have a whole mission field right around us every day! We see so many hurting people, going about aimlessly and lonely, and in need of a the One who can give their life purpose. Before the Lord left this earth, He gave us a final charge and He said in Matt. 28:19-20, “Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.” What if the disciples had kept the message to themselves, where would we be today? The Lord means for all of us to not just know Him but to share Him with those in our lives and then nurture them so that they can in turn win others. We can be used to help them know how to listen to the Lord, let the Word speak to them and to become mature. Don’t you love to see new believers sharing their faith as there is an excitement, a freshness, a boldness that we all need. We are all called to be His witnesses, His lights and to share Him until our last day of our journey when we are ushered into glory with Him.
This blog’s title is rather provocative amidst today’s debate regarding gender. It’s also the title of an article by Peter J. Leithart in First Things. After saying in Genesis 1 that creation was “very good,” God said in Gen. 2:18, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” Pope John Paul II viewed “Adam’s solitude as an opportunity for self-discovery.” According to Leithart, in solitude Adam “learns his uniqueness… [and] distinguishes himself… with his first act of self-consciousness… He discovers himself as ‘person.'” He is “a matchless being with a unique depth of subjectivity.”
Still, he is alone and incomplete. God created Adam for relationship. “The man alone is no more than a part, a limb without a body.” Adam is, as Paul later says, “head” of the woman. Leithart notes, however, “[a] bodiless head is as monstrous as a headless body. He’s an image of God only together with the woman.”
Leithart explains, “…Man needs help so humanity can achieve what humanity is called to achieve. Unless the unique powers of woman catalyze the powers of man, and vice versa, mankind cannot reach its destiny… The gift of the woman transforms the man… [Adam] needs a helper to complete the human task… he needs a woman to be fully human.” Leithart then ends with this: “The woman rescues the man from his solitude so humanity can reach its full glory, because, as Paul says, the woman is the glory of man.”
Men need to remember that Eve was not just to help functionally and vocationally: “The man needs a helper so that the part he is can fit into a whole, the union of two as one flesh.” Adam needs a partner for his task, but he also needs the woman to be fully human. Leithart makes this observation: “Without the helper, the man is as half-finished as a chaotic, darkened earth, as fruitless as land without plants and water. Conversely, woman completes man as light, form and fullness complete the formless earth.”
Men, here are four takeaways to consider. First, use your own solitude to discover your heavenly Father saying, “You are my beloved.” Don’t expect a woman to affirm who you are. Affirmation comes from your Father in heaven. In solitude you learn you are a person, “a matchless being with a unique depth of subjectivity.” “When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God.” (Gen. 5:1 NIV).
Second, realize you are not complete. “As God supplies what’s lacking in creation’s deficiency, so he rescues man from his solitude.” We are all “no more than a part, a limb without a body.” Some remain single but find completeness in their relationship with the Lord, in being part of an extended family, and in being part of a church. Married people find wholeness not only in these relationships, but also in marriage itself.
Third, if God has led you into the covenant of marriage, you need your wife to finish the task God has given you. “Adam is created to be earth’s king, but he can’t become king unless he has a queen at his side. The woman rescues the man from inevitable frustration and mission-failure.” Men need to be rescued from their frail egos by a loving and supporting spouse. Let her into your heart.
Fourth, remember that you are not a whole man in your solitude – you were created for relationship. If God leads you into the marriage relationship, he knows you need your wife to help you flourish on life’s journey. For many, “the gift of the woman transforms the man from a waterless waste into the human equivalent of the garden of God.”
Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Our apartment is filled with aroma as I have a big pot of lentil soup on the stove. I have a sinus head cold and the taste of stew perked my taste buds.