Since this blog site is concerned about a healthy expression of masculinity, I want to weigh in on Donald Trump and “locker room talk.” To start with, I am conflicted about voting for the best of two deeply flawed candidates. I am saddened by religious leaders who seem to be giving Trump a pass on his “toxic” masculinity. We hear things such as, “Trump’s not a Sunday school teacher, Trump’s a new King David or pagan deliverer Cyrus. Trump is either a ‘baby Christian’ or the kind of tough strongman conservative Christian need since the Sermon on the Mount isn’t realistic enough for the 21st century.”
What is most disturbing is the coming post election fall out. One female columnist calls it, “the coming ‘sexism’ Tsunami.” Mark my words, the path for men as humble, loving followers of Jesus, will be laden with new and vicious attacks from angry feminists, who have been collecting fresh ammunition from Mr. Trump’s legacy as a “womanizer.” The response of some Christian leaders only adds fuel to the fire. With all the muster I can gather for this blog, I want to shout “character matters.” America needs men of spiritual integrity who strive to model moral purity.
Men, the Lord will not give us a pass on “locker room talk.” Jesus warns us, “Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse. But don’t think you’re preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices – they also corrupt” (Matt. 5:27-8 -Message). Our sexual passion and energy needs to be reserved for our wives only. “Your spring water is for you and you only, not to be passed around among strangers. Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – don’t ever quit taking delight in her body” (Prov 5:17-18 – Message). Job is very blunt. ” I made a solemn pact with myself never to undress a girl with my eyes” (Job 31:1 – Message).
Here is some hard earned advise from someone who has sought to be a “one woman man” for over 50 years. First, admit to yourself and confess to other men that you are a man filled with sexual passion that needs to be channeled in a healthy spiritual manner. It is everyman’s battle in our culture. I have been a faithful husband for 51 years. But have I struggled with my sexual fantasies? Yes. Men, surrender your inner life to God, letting light into secret places of our heart. Secondly, purpose to honor and cherish your wife. Take delight in her. Work at not taking your marriage for granted. Cherish her by showing in word and deed that she first among your priorities. She is “Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh (Gen3:23).
Thirdly, show your wife the utmost respect in public. Be attentive to her. Do little things like opening the door for her. How you treat your wife in public, will send a profound message to women that you honor the opposite sex. Never, never belittle your wife in public or in front of your children. Fourthly, make a covenant with your eyes. Never look with lust at another woman. Do not flirt or entertain the advances of other woman. Commit to be a “one woman man” in every relationship.
There is much more to say, but one more point. Among other men, disavow locker room talk. Never objectify another women by your attitude, words or actions. Be vigilant among other men. Angry women who have been deeply hurt by other men are watching.