We also grow through trials and suffering. God uses trials to humble us and allow us to share in His sufferings. I Peter 4:13-14 tells us to rejoice in so far as you share Christ’s sufferings because the spirit of glory and of God rests on you. I doubt that most of us welcome suffering at first, but gradually, as we mature in our faith, we aren’t so afraid of it and can even get to the place where we rejoice and thank the Lord. Underneath whatever we are going through, it is possible to experience deep joy when we offer up our suffering out of love for Him.
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When I get together regularly with a friend, we have a question we contemplate, write about, and share together when we meet the next time. One such question was: “How has God used His refining fire on me?” Now we all face hard times when we have difficulties and recognize God is trying to get our attention. Maybe we have gradually grown lukewarm in our love for the Lord and He allows things to come into our lives to help us deal with our old nature. I hope we all want Him to burn away the chaff (those things that are not life-producing and weigh us down). When we ask the Lord to use His refining fire on us, He does it in various ways and circumstances to help us die to our flesh and refine us. We don’t always jump up and down with gratitude during the process, but later we see the fruit of His loving hand and are grateful.
We can probably all think of people God has put in our lives that He has used to refine us. Maybe they have gossiped about us, spoken lies or hurt us in some way. What is our response? Do we care more about our reputation and try to defend ourselves, or are we humble and give it to the Lord letting Him work things out in His timing? God can also use friends and family in our lives to refine us, speak corrective words and pray for us. They help us get on the path again and draw closer to the Lord. His kind of refining may seem more welcoming and healing, and God uses many ways to help get rid of our chaff.
Let us be open to all the ways God uses to burn off the things that distract us and draw us away from a deep relationship with Him.

Growing up I was the first one to go to garage sales, craft sales, early bird specials, etc. and enjoyed all the bargains. Gradually though there is an accumulation of more than is needed and the luster of the purchases wane. Yes, we do have basic needs, but that is not the same as desiring the latest or far more than we need. The Lord has told us that we don’t have to be anxious about food or clothes that He will provide what we need, just as he does the birds of the air. He said in Matthew 6, to not to lay up for ourselves treasures on earth where moths or rust destroy, but lay up for ourselves treasures in heaven, for where our treasure is our heart will be also.
When we are confident in God’s care for us and His love for us, we don’t need things to make us happy or feel loved. The truth is that all those temporal things can’t bring satisfaction that only God can. Importantly, do we serve God through what we have already been given? We may have titles and positions but do we use them to bring glory to ourselves or to the Lord? Let us seek joy in the Lord and find beauty in all He has made and give all the glory and honor to Him. Only what is done for Him will last.
To love ourselves will include a healthy self-love, and self-respect and the experience of loving others. We learn to handle hurt and practice self-discipline and sacrifice. It also means we recognize our own needs before we can recognize the needs of others and have the strength to reach out to them. Like Padovani wrote, “Self-love turns inward, only to turn outward to others. Selfishness turns inward and remains there—and dies.” We all need times to rest and get refreshed so that we can continue to give and help others. If we fail to do this we can burn out.
When we love ourselves, we should not be afraid to look at ourselves critically but be open to gain insight that can be constructive and positive. How can we mature if we ignore self-criticism rather than go on to grow, learn through our failures and handle change. Self-criticism is not the same as self-condemnation that leaves us feeling worthless. Self-criticism helps us to realize we can become better, grow and know ourselves better.
Let us choose to go on to emotional and spiritual maturity by loving ourselves and being open to self-criticism, not self-condemning.
Michael Cusick, counselor and spiritual director, warns us against unhealthy self-soothing that tries to fill the void in our lives. Many turn to drugs and alcohol to try to find relief and fill the emptiness within. Others may hide their pain and vulnerability behind masks. Maybe we suddenly get a terrible illness or we are betrayed by a friend and we feel like we are spinning in place, for life doesn’t seem to work as before. Something has happened that shakes us, humiliates us, and redefines us. We may try to meet our own needs, but we must open our hearts instead to the Lord.
The evil one quickly tries to step in, suggesting we try alternatives that sound close to the truth rather than letting our deep needs be met by the Lord. In Matthew 4 we read how Jesus was tempted three times by the devil, and Satan used even the word of God to try to get Jesus to meet his own needs like turning stones into bread. Jesus didn’t take the devil’s bait, but instead relied on His Father and spoke the Word back to the devil.
There is only one place we need to go when feel empty and the bottom drops out of our lives, and that is to the Lord. He waits for us to come, and it says in Ps. 32:8, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go: I will counsel you with my eye upon you.” We are not alone, but the Lord waits for us to come to Him. He will reorder our life and give us love and purpose.
Perhaps we have been going merrily along in our life and everything is good, and suddenly we hit a wall. It could be a circumstance that will change everything, or it could be hurtful words that pierced our heart, but whatever it is, we feel helpless and needy. God specializes in using those circumstances to draw us to Himself and it is a time He displays His power, for it says that “His power is perfected in our weakness.” (II Cor. 12:9). We come to realize in a deep way that our need for the Lord is great!
There are secondary benefits, for our pride gets crushed. Such times drive us to the Word where we hungrily read scripture to claim verses that sustain us. We also may become more sympathetic to others and slower to judge them, for we know what it is like to feel like being in the pit. Hopefully we come to realize that life is very brief and discover what is really important and can come to rest in Him.
When we are delivered from our circumstance and pain, we may be filled with overwhelming gratitude and praise. Hopefully we see that God was producing fruit in our lives and now we have become more patient, understanding and loving toward others… more like Jesus. May our hurting times produce growth in each of us, for we need the Lord all the time.
Some people refuse to move ahead with the Lord and trust Him since they don’t know how He will work in their lives. They may get bitter and refuse to trust the Lord altogether. Others may experience the dark night when they can’t sense God’s presence and feel dry, yet trust that God is doing a work in them. But if we let the Lord lead us through the wall, we will feel more certain of God’s love and discover who we really are as we can lay aside the opinions of others. We will wonderfully experience a cleansing of our inner being.
But remember: God is the One in charge and moves us through the wall. We need to trust Him, wait on Him, obey Him and stick with Him even though we may want to quit. But all the while, He is in the business of transforming His nature within us. It may be seen in us as a humbleness and brokenness, for we are being stripped of our pride. We no longer judge others and realize instead how needy we are. I often pray the Jesus Prayer from Luke 18:38, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me.” We are the needy ones and though we don’t always know what God is doing in us, we learn to trust, give up our attachments and wait.
Challenge for today: Dare to ask the Lord to take you through your wall and as you surrender, know that He is trustworthy and will do a beautiful work within you.
Blessings on your weekend and prayers and love, Judy
The Message translation says, “Keep your eyes open for God, watch for His works be alert for signs of His presence.” If we were seeking His presence continually throughout our day, our lives would be transformed and we would see all the things around us as a work of His hands. The Amplified translation says, “Seek, inquire of and for the Lord, and crave Him and His strength (His might and inflexibility to temptation): seek and require His face and His presence (continually) evermore.” Then we are told to also to move on to think about His miracles and wonders and faithfulness. Let us all enjoy the Lord and seek Him throughout our day.
Challenge for today: Memorize and practice Psalm 105:4.
Blessings on your weekend and prayers and love, Judy
We read about the desert saints: they chose to face life in solitude and quiet so that they could seek God without all the attractions of the world that will not satisfy. Some lived in caves, small stone huts, etc. and had a rhythm of work, prayer and solitude. They confronted the darkness within them as they were not distracted by busyness as they cared for their soul’s inner transformation.
We also have a battle of the heart to fight. We may not actually go to the desert, but it means dying to our flesh nature so we can come closer to the Lord. I was reading Water from a Deep Well by Gerald Sittser and he had some suggestions. We could go to a church, sitting silently in the sanctuary for an hour or two in silence and just listen to the Lord. Or we could fast from TV for a month, pray for a half hour before going to work, or invite people to our home that rarely get invitations. We could give more to the Lord’s work, work at a soup kitchen, etc.
Whatever things seem to occupy our lives and steal our focus from the Lord are the things we should ask for the Lord’s help to give up. It will be different for all of us. King David prayed in Psalm 139 that the Lord would search and know his heart, test him and know his thoughts and then to lead Him in His way everlasting. Let us be serious about our spiritual lives and give attention to what is truly important. One day our lives will be over and only what is done for Him will last.
I was reminded of that when I went to visit a Christian friend who shared how she had been berated and hollered at by a care giver, simply because she put her light on for help. The person had done this before and my friend had answered her back, only this time she had just kept quiet, knowing that saying anything would only escalate things. We talked about the situation and I told her that she would need to forgive her, even though the other person wasn’t sorry. When we forgive, then God will deal with the person and we are set free. It helped that we talked about how Jesus knew exactly how she was feeling for He forgave those who mocked Him, spit on Him and there were times He simply kept silent. Her heart softened and she replied, “Yes, I can forgive her! I will forgive her.” We ended up praying for the gal who makes life hard for her, and my friend had peace in forgiveness.
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