I was alerted to the word “microaggresion” by Eric Metaxas over at “Breakpoint.” He writes, “If you’ve never heard the term “mircoaggresion” consider yourself fortunate. But you’re going to need to be familiar with the concept because it lies at the heart of the explosion of political correctness in the public square.” In the 70’s the term was used mostly in race relations. But now it has cross over into the larger culture, referring to perceived slights by any “socially marginalized group,” which has grown to include women and sexual minorities as well. Microaggresion is being used to silent Christians in matters of sexual ethics. Much as been made of New York Times columnist Frank Bruni, who wrote that it is not enough that gays and lesbians are legally protected from actual discrimination, but that we need to eliminate any form of disapproval.
Men, we all need to be fully aware of how rapidly our religious freedom and liberty is be eroded. The ultimate goal would be to silence the voice of committed Christians, who believe the very foundations of our culture are at stake, if gay marriage becomes the norm in our nation. Honest dialogue or descent is being called into question. I write with a passion to reach younger men. Your simple witness as a committed husband and father can be a vital witness. Richard Rohr said it well: “A man who is secure in his gender identity, will have a healthy masculine gender identity as well as the balance of the complementary feminine.” So, as Charles Colson, so famously asked, “How Shall We Then Live?”
Here are a few suggestions. First, come to a clear, firm and confident interpretation of Scripture on the “gay” issue. For me, it starts with Scripture. I cannot justify the gay lifestyle with Scripture. So come to your own conviction. There are a variety of view among Christian folks. Secondly, do what you need to do, to become secure in your own sexuality. That might mean a journey inward to receive inner healing for your masculine soul. Many men cannot think clearly on this issue, while responding in love towards opponents because of their own sexual insecurities. Thirdly, determine in your heart to act lovingly to all who do not agree with you. There is no greater “black mark” in the gender wars for Christians, then when we act without compassion towards those in the gay lifestyle.
Fourthly, as “the Gender Wars” descend upon us, I beg you, don’t flee into some supposedly safe place, emotionally and spiritually. This will only produce a man who is passive, silent, and dulled into become a sickly, weak man. We desperately need examples of healthy maleness. What is needed more then ever are men who live ordinary lives with their families, in their community and churches, and at work, modeling the life style of a man who in his heart is both a “lion” and a “lamb.” We read in Revelation 5 that John saw Jesus as “lamb, looking as if it has been slain” (6). He was also told to look at, “The Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David (who) has triumphed” (5). What is needed are men who can be both “the lion” and “the lamb.” This comes as men surrender to the Lordship of Jesus.
One final thought. We read of the lamb again in Rev. 12:11, “They triumphed over him by the blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” Men let us see ourselves of followers of the lamb, embracing the “crucified life.”