You must be curious about the title of my blog. “Fu” and “Wishy” were playful, intimate terms Judy and I had for each other during our courting days. Judy was “Fu” and I was “Wishy.” How we got those names is a long story. Towards the end of our two weeks on the beach at South Padre, I got the idea of writing one of these heart shaped expressions of our love for one another in the sand. Here is what I wrote. “I love Fu/ yes I do/ This is true/ Love Wishy.” Others came by and had various responses to an “old-timer” writing in the sand. So why do I bring up this incident?.
It has to do with my passions. Proverbs 5:18-19 – Message tells us, “Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted.” That day on the beach I was enjoying the company of my “fresh-flowing fountain” that has been at my side for 51 years. I was reverting back to our early days of courtship as we walked the beach hand in hand. I often say, “My wife is like good wine, it gets better with age.” My regret is that often I, “take her love for granted.” I am asking the Lord to help me enjoy each day that I have with my “rose” since we are in the fourth quarter of our journey together.
I am thankful for that day on the beach when I spontaneously got the idea of expressing my affection of my “bride” in such a public manner. It was evidence that the flame that was lite over 50 years ago was till burning for my wife. I identify with the words of Paul when he says, “But if they [unmarried men] can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single” (I Cor. 7:9 – Message). I say “Amen.” My testimony is that only by the grace of God has the flame continued to burn for my wife. Like many of you I have to guard my heart from wandering away from my wife. I have found over the years that the more I expose my passions in the light of the Lord, the more they can be directed towards my wife. I lived for years in shame regarding these passions. I never let them see the light of God’s love and mercy. Men, don’t hide with your passions in those dark places of lustful fantasy.
Do you find delight and joy in the wife of your youth? How bright is your flame? “So guard your heart, remain loyal to the wife of your youth (2:15),” advises the prophet Malachi, in his lament on the destructive nature of divorce. There are men who live with their wives in “emotional” divorce. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty….So guard your heart, do not be unfaithful to your wife.” (Malachi 2:16). There are probably men reading this blog, who know they are living in emotional divorce. Let it convict you that it can overwhelm your wife with cruelty.
My advice, open those dark places in your soul where you entertain lustful thoughts for other women to the gaze of the Lord. Once you do, you will be surprised that God love you right there in your stink. Give your struggle to him. Ask him to direct your passion to the wife of your youth.