Month: January 2024 (Page 2 of 4)
Perhaps we don’t want to be like the Pharisees that wanted to look good but were not honest about their hearts. They saw in others what they would not admit in themselves. When we do that and aren’t willing to see what is in our deeper level, we lose connection with ourselves. We all need God’s grace to give up our self-protection and become vulnerable and aware of what is inside.
As we are vulnerable, we will find that we will experience love and joy and hope for we become authentic and real. There is depth to our lives, and we are also better able to accept others for who they are…not perfect but real. I like the quote by Thomas Merton that I read: “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
I recently read an article by Alicia Searl who shares about the threats to marriage today. The enemy tries to destroy the marriage relationship which is the very picture of Christ’s love for His church. It is important for Christian couples to guard and protect the sanctity of marriage and not take the world’s view but see it from God’s lens as a holy union and offer our hearts, minds, souls, and bodies as a gift to one another. (Eph. 5:;22-30)
We must spend time communicating with one another face to face, and grow in intimacy, rather than spending so much time on our phones, social media, and zoning out. We can also get caught up in busyness and trying to juggle too many things into our schedules, with no time left to connect. Maybe it is time to pause and look over our schedules and build in time for each other. When our kids were little and tucked in bed, Al and I spent the last 20 minutes of the day sharing together of our day and any concerns and then praying together. Now we start our day in prayer together and then later walk the trail together and share as we walk. Communication is super important and even though men and women communicate differently, we need to listen to one another and seek to hear what each is saying without interrupting.
Sometimes we may start out well on the way to transformation and then we seem to slow down and plateau or maybe get stuck. It can help to share with another believer how we are struggling and have them pray for us. We may have to renew our desire for transformation over and over again and tell the Lord we want to receive all that He has for us. He will answer and will begin to open our eyes and help us note what is happening on the inside of us. For the first time, we may become aware of patterns of our behavior and habits that distract us from His presence. We can ask Him to help us pursue Him and see things from His perspective. Of course, the next important step is to be willing to act on what He shows us and take steps of action in the right direction. I know for myself, there is often a time lapse from when He shows me and when I willingly take action. But sometimes I just pray for the will to be willing to take action. It helps to remember that He will not force us to change but simply invites us. Authors Gem and Alan Fadling write how we need to remember that God is inviting us into continual relationship because He desires our presence rather than thinking of it as a duty and a to-do list. Then it seems like we are working together in it and change seems to just happen as a result.
I am studying the prophet Jeremiah’s life and he was up front in speaking to the people and particularly the religious leaders and pointing out to them their hypocrisy and the need to repent. But what was Jeremiah like when he wasn’t addressing them but apart and alone? Eugene Peterson writes Jeremiah’s inner life was revealed as he prayed and made confession to the Lord. I must confess I might have gotten discouraged when speaking out like Jeremiah, and finding it wasn’t being received and then persecuted for what God told me to say. But what did Jeremiah do? He prayed and was passionate and had intimate exchanges with the Lord. He addresses the Lord and is real with Him and shares what he is experiencing as he faces loneliness and hurt and anger. In Jer. 15:15 he prays, “You know where I am, God! Remember what I’m doing here! Take my side against my detractors.” He doesn’t hesitate to tell how he feels but lived the truth of his message and took God at His word. He was honest with the Lord and expressed when he was angry and felt like God was just a mirage. He experienced self-pity but God tells him he understands his situation but won’t indulge him in his self-pity. He told him to repent instead and stand tall.
Jeremiah speaks to the Lord what he feels, and we can honestly do that too. We don’t have to sugarcoat our feelings of frustration and anger, but we can pray and then listen to the Lord’s response as He restores us. Just like Jeremiah who prayed in secret, what we do in secret determines the soundness of who we are in public. Let us give ourselves to seek the Lord and to pray in every situation.
Maybe it is a question you would also like to answer but be prepared for how the Spirit may open up things from deep places within. That’s what happened to me and as I walked with Al, I shared with him that God had showed me that there was a blockage to experiencing the Father’s love on a continual basis. Yes, there were times in the past I had experiences of knowing I was Abba Father’s beloved child and had times I felt His love poured out of me even to a stranger, and I knew it was Him, not me. But the Lord opened my eyes recently to help me see how many times that love was blocked by being over-responsible, even as a little girl. Therefore, I felt like if I failed in something I was responsible for, I didn’t feel worthy of His love. But the Lord one day, just healed me and I knew when it happened as it was a most wonderful freeing feeling. Later I shared with Al, who is my spiritual director, and we spent some time reviewing what had happened in my past and praying. Sometimes we don’t even know or understand the blockages we have towards the Lord, but if we ask Him, He will show us and take us deeper.
Owen Strachan, a research professor of theology at Grace Bible Theology Seminary, speaks boldly about our culture when he implies, “At basically every level, men are disappearing … for every one woman who drops out of college, seven men drop out. Men have left the workforce in almost unprecedented numbers … men have disappeared from many families … in the bleakest category there is, suicide rates, men kill themselves far more than women do, representing 80% of suicides today …” Strachan calls this disappearing “ghosting” loved ones, the work environment and “this very world itself.” He insists that “feminism and wokeness have accomplished nothing less than the destabilization of civilization.”
Strachan believes in such an anti-male climate few dare to speak for men. But he challenges us to encourage and reengage men. “The dire situation before us today requires us to fight for men, not against them, since men are disappearing and struggling. We need to find men where they are – “in some cases, this will be a precipice.” Strachan envisions a mission to “speak a different word than anti-male voices … No man is hopeless. No man is too far gone for God to reach him, remake him, and put him to work. [Many men] have lost all hope and will soon step off the ledge into the darkness, disappearing forever.”
Strachan sees four deficient categories of men who are struggling:
1) The “soft man” who yields to the strong woman and take cues from her.
2) The “exaggerated man,” similar to the Andrew Tate-type who embraces a “cartoonish manhood.”
3) The “lost man” who leaves his family and opts out of “any meaningful involvement in society”; and
4) The “angry man” who, as an “exercise in vengeance” perverts his God-given strength for evil uses, as in the case of a mass shooter.
What is needed are strong men – not in themselves but in Christ – to join the fight to rescue disappearing men. Strong men who use their strength for the good of others. “He is a man under discipline and a soldier under orders. He lives not by his own creed, but the truth of God.” Jesus is the model. He was tough and tender. “….That’s the kind of man we desperately need today. But as long as the culture targets strong men, we’re only weakening ourselves, and putting everyone in jeopardy. If you demonize strong men, eventually there are none left.”
I am motivated to rescue men on the edge of the precipice, gripped by discouragement and hopelessness, having caved to the relentless message that men are toxic. Strachan warns, “We must reach them before it is too late, and the hour is indeed late in the West.” I was reminded of this exhortation: “And you must show mercy to those whose faith is wavering. Rescue others by snatching them for the flames of judgment. Show mercy to still others, but do so with great caution, hating the sins that contaminate their lives” (Jude 22).
Do a spiritual checkup:
- Are you strong in the Lord? “… When I am weak, then I am strong” (II Cor 12:10).
- Do you have a passion to reach other men, even if it means snatching them for the flames of judgment? (Jude 22).
- Are you preparing yourself to be misunderstood in a culture that does not accept the scriptural mandate for Adam to “work and take care of the Garden of Eden” (Genesis 2:15).
- Do you long, like Paul, for your kinsmen to know Christ? “I have great sorrow and unceasing anguish in my heart” (Romans 9:2).
Lord, give us grace and strength to be the men of faith you have created and designed us to be.
In our family birthdays have been important as a day to celebrate the honored person as God’s special gift in our lives. We are thankful to the Lord for them and we want to let them know they are loved. When the kids were young, we invited the whole neighborhood of kids to their parties but now it is mostly just family, since we live in a small place. Recently I was getting ready to celebrate Ann’s birthday and had much joy as I blew up balloons, got the meal ready, presents wrapped, and wanted Ann to know how much we love her. When she and Leif came their arms were full, and at first, I thought they were bringing groceries in from their truck so they wouldn’t freeze while we celebrated. But I was wrong, and they said it was all for me. Guess what it was! I couldn’t believe it, but buckets of cards that had been Leif’s mother, who recently died. She was like me and loved to give cards and now I was the recipient of her treasure. I was so blessed and happy that as soon as I cleaned up after the party, I sorted through the many cards, until bedtime. I thanked the Lord over and over for this unexpected gift and thought of Jesus words for truly abundant gifts were poured out upon me in overflowing measure!
May we not hold back when it is in our power to give and serve others, for the Lord is waiting to release abundant gifts to us, but more importantly to open our hearts to Him and to others.
The enemy uses many devious ways to get at them and one of the biggest ways is to attack their self-worth and even give them suicidal thoughts. One friend wrote recently that her granddaughter has tried suicide unsuccessfully 5 times. Satan tells them they are not loved and a negative message on Facebook can tip them over the edge. But we can share with them how much they are loved by us and especially by the Lord, and let them know they are not alone.
The enemy sends temptations of all kinds their way. He may tempt them with riches, causing them to feel deprived if they don’t have as much as others. We can point them instead to the riches they have in the Lord and share what is truly important. They can also get confused by the influence of ungodly friendships whose values are of the world. Gangs may also seem an answer to their loneliness and we need to pray for friendships to influence them for God’s kingdom instead. The enemy uses technology in a big way and children become dependent on their phone messages to know their worth.
But we can pray much for them to have strength to resist the enemy’s tactics and as it says in James 4:7, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” It’s important that we faithfully hold them up in prayers to say no to the enemy and yes to the Lord. Let them know God will provide a way of escape when they are tempted and He will help them to follow and obey the Lord.
As I was reading, I thought of the correlation with us when we are uprooted with job changes, life circumstances, health problems and everything is changed overnight. We can spend lots of energy complaining or we can accept what is, and grow and spiritually prosper as we learn from it. Feeling sorry for ourselves will not change the situation, and if we are always looking back on what was and is familiar, we will miss the present blessings God is sending our way. We must focus on the Lord and where He has us right now, and do our best in the circumstances we are in. The Lord is always with us, and He will help us adapt to what is in the present. When we accept the new place He has for us, our energy will be put into our present work and we will grow in new ways.
Change shakes us out of our comfort zones and helps us be totally dependent on the Lord and we can leave the excess baggage behind to be more focused on Him. Let us not complain when we feel like we are in exile but get busy planting seeds that will grow beautiful fruit in our lives and in others.
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