Geri Scazzero speaks of the fallout of over-functioning in heJoe<r book, The Emotionally Healthy Woman, and found out first hand the negative impact on her family. She was doing for all of them what they should have been doing themselves, at the expense of her own soul. She ended up depressed, resentful and worn out. She compared herself to Martha in scripture who was in an over-functioning mode, as she got caught up trying to accomplish too much and lost sight of the purpose of welcoming her guests and caring for them.
Many of us might be taking on more responsibility for people than God is asking of us. He may be wanting them to grow through responsibilities that we have rushed in to do. It may even make them feel inadequate, by allowing them to under-function in the things God would use to help them mature in their lives. Children should be given responsibilities beginning at home according to their age, so they can grow and take on bigger things in the future. Too many children are coddled today with all their needs met and when they go out in the real world, they are ill-equipped to do things on their own.
Maybe we all need to also look at our own lives and ask if we have lost focus on our own goals and values because we are so busy over-functioning. Let us only do the work God calls us to do! He will always leave us time to be with Him as with Mary. (Luke 10:38-42)
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