Men, we all have a shadow side to our personality.  Our shadow is what we refuse to acknowledge  about ourselves.  There are disowned aspects that we simply reject and sent into an inner exile, as we try to manufacture an image of self that is acceptable to ourselves and others.   We need to be…

Recently my wife and I had an argument.  I did not like the way I handled it.  I went into my cave and started stewing.  It took me almost a day to admit that I was angry.   I was a cauldron of unhealthy emotions.  I certainly did not want to talk with my wife…

Sexual assaults on college campuses has been in the news lately.  One out of five female students experience rape or sexual assault while they are in college.  Camille Paglia, writing in Time magazine puts it very bluntly, “young women today do not understand the fragility of civilization and the constant nearness of savage nature.”  She…

Jesus was soulful man.  He was in touch with  his deepest emotions and reactions to life. Just before his death, Jesus he became deeply troubled.  We read in John 12:27, “Now my soul is deeply troubled.”  The same word is used to describe Jesus’ reaction at  the tomb of his good friend Lazarus, “Deep anger…

I must report that Viking fans in Minnesota are conflicted these days, especially the men.  There will be a lot of discussion about the future of our superstar,  Adrian Peterson.  Adrian might not be playing for the rest of the year because of reported child abuse accusations from several sources.  As I was on my…

Back in the early 90’s I read a book by Charles Colson entitled “Against the Night.” Here is a statement that seems almost prophetic over 20 later. “I believe that we do face a crisis in Western culture, and that it presents the greatest threat to civilization since the barbarians invaded Rome.  I believe that…

In a recent men’s group at my church we were discussing death and the legacy we each will leave behind.  We all agreed that the ”stuff’” we leave behind will not be nearly as important as our “relational” legacy.  How will we be remembered as a “godly man.” Why is it harder to leave behind…

Every once in awhile there is an ad that gets it right when it comes to the  moral values in our culture.  There is a “Cheerios” ad that shows a married father helping his children through their morning routine,  reflecting on his role as dad. “Dadhood isn’t always easy.  When a rule is broken, we’re…

I am not ashamed to admit it – I was moved to tears recently watching Andre Reed’s speech at his induction to the Pro Hall of Fame.  I remember his playing days, as a wide receiver, with the Buffalo Bills.  “I was known for my toughness, going across the middle, making the catch, breaking tackles,”…

In this blog I am especially thinking of  men who has children at home.  We are all aware of how swiftly our culture is losing even the memory of the Christian story.  The story of a loving Creator God, who has entered human history, in the person of His Son,  to rescue us from our…