It’s wonderful when we are raised in a home where we were loved and valued and delighted in, but not all homes are like that. Many know what rejection feels like as in the life of a previous friend when his mom told him she wished she never had him. Words of rejection pierce our hearts, and we often end up not having a secure connection. Instead, we can get protective and defensive and try to hide from pain and from others. It often leaves us distant from the Lord and others as we hide behind walls.
But let us remember that our worth is in the Lord and He values us. Even when we have been wounded in our past by not having secure attachment relationships, our deepest self is hidden with Christ in God. (Col. 3:3) He is the one that can rewire us and give us security, love and understanding. Nothing can separate us from His love. Often, he steers us toward a fellowship group that opens their arms to us as well. At times therapy may be necessary to unlock us from our past. But the most beautiful thing is shared in what Henri Nouwen writes, “Our first and most important spiritual task is to claim God’s unconditional love for ourselves. To remember who we truly are in the memory of God…That we are God’s beloved.”
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