Lately I have had this simple thought regarding the spiritual search of men in our day.  “Men desire to know experientally the love of God.”  There is a quiet, hidden, and at times desperate longing in the soul of many men, crying out, “there must be something more to the Christian life then I am experiencing.”  They…

One of the Christian authors who has been the most help for me in my journey during the last ten years has been psychologist, David Benner.  He has opened my spiritual eyes to aspects of the Christian life that I never fully grasped.  His insights, especially into knowing the the love of God has been…

For the last couple of weeks I have been working quite intently on a talk I will be giving at the Shalom program that I am a part of in Duluth at St. Scholastica.  The title of the talk is “Forgiveness, reunion and inner healing.”  In my reflection I have come to several surprises.  First of…

One of the joys I have in this stage of my journey is to be working with the Benedictine Sisters at St. Scholatica in Duluth.  The sisters found me through a fellow pilgrim.  The longer I work in their spiritual direction program the more comfortable I am being on the team.  I have been learning…

I am sure that  most of the men who read this blog have had some quality time with family during this holiday season.  I wonder how it has gone for each of you?  We always joke about our family relationships during our wildman gatherings.  This joking is really a reflection on the stress and even the pain…

As a young man, I faced a lot of challenges learning to integrate my heart with my head.  In fact, it was probably one of the most difficult aspects of growing up and maturing.  I simply had really difficult time clearly expressing what I was feeling.   And in my later years I became more and…

A significant aspect of “the wildman journey” is learning to access, process and verbalize our inner pain.  We have not had mentors to help us recognize and give language to our inner pain.  As a result we live in denial of the pain, while being defensive and alone with our “inner grieving.”  In this post I would…

During the Advent Season, as we meditate on the coming of Christ into our world, I would like to share some thoughts concerning “Incarnational Reality.” The truth contained in this phrase became real in my heart through the teaching of Leanne Payne. It made a significant impact in how I viewed my relationship to God.  Colossians 1:27 declares…

I want to begin this post by quoting Henri Nouwen. “The spiritual life starts at the moment that you go beyond all of the wounds and claim that there was a love that was perfect and unlimited, long before that perfect love became reflected in the imperfect and limited, conditional love of people.  The spiritual…

I have been gone for over a week.  Judy and I have been visiting our two sons and their families in Kansas City and Colorado Springs.  I sure the Thanksgiving season was a blessing for many of the men who read this blog.  For some, however,  there were moments of pain.  I use that word…